I'm not sure if this is in the right area of the board so I understand if admin moves it. I've been married 10yrs(together 13) how do you not let the kids tear you apart? I love husband, I really really do and for the most part I'm still very much in love with him however; when the kids act up, and things are difficult with them, it pulls me and husband apart, the stress of dealing with them makes us turn on each other, or it sucks the life out of us as a couple. Last night was a good example of husband just being fed up with the boys and of course pms is headed my way so it was not good. I worry about us being torn apart, I'm not sure how much more either of us can take. Most people who divorce do so by the time the kids are 5 and parents of multiples are at much higher rate than singletons. for those of you who are divorced are there things you would do differently if you could go back in time? for those still married how do you keep it together?