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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 308635"><p>I'm so very sorry.</p><p>Surely, your anxiety will improve if you give at least some of this up.</p><p>Please read the detachment literature.</p><p>You have extended custody and this might be good thing. You might want to use it to keep an eye out on his behalf...making sure he receives good treatment...good medical and psychological care.</p><p>Much of what needs to take place will be "on him." He will have to find strength with-i himself to get better and you can not do this for him.</p><p>It is a horrible fact of life and it is horribly unfair and painful and I am profoundly sorry. I have been there done that and it pains me almost daily.</p><p>However, the pain lessons (gets better) for me when I give up the stresses involved and when I give up trying to take control of something that is not something that I can control.</p><p>Often, I have to simply say a prayer and ask for spiritual help because it is beyond my understanding.</p><p>If you re read what you have written or simply think about how you feel, you will realize that you need/crave release from the excess stress and the only way you can do this is to take on a new attitude/outlook about it all.</p><p>Go to Suz's detachment website and read this and the Serenity Prayer.</p><p>You are a mom and you will want to help and that is fine and acceptable...but shake out the excessive emotional part of it as best as you can so that you can enjoy others in your life like a spouse, other children, good friends....see the beauty that is still around you.</p><p>Let your mantra be...that a Higher Power and good doctors will help your son help himself and that you are a strong woman and can 'handle' anything that may or may not come down the pike. In the meantime, you are going to help your son as best as you are able, but you are going to enjoy life to the fullest anyway. </p><p>Again, I am sorry.</p><p>(Hugs)</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 308635"] I'm so very sorry. Surely, your anxiety will improve if you give at least some of this up. Please read the detachment literature. You have extended custody and this might be good thing. You might want to use it to keep an eye out on his behalf...making sure he receives good treatment...good medical and psychological care. Much of what needs to take place will be "on him." He will have to find strength with-i himself to get better and you can not do this for him. It is a horrible fact of life and it is horribly unfair and painful and I am profoundly sorry. I have been there done that and it pains me almost daily. However, the pain lessons (gets better) for me when I give up the stresses involved and when I give up trying to take control of something that is not something that I can control. Often, I have to simply say a prayer and ask for spiritual help because it is beyond my understanding. If you re read what you have written or simply think about how you feel, you will realize that you need/crave release from the excess stress and the only way you can do this is to take on a new attitude/outlook about it all. Go to Suz's detachment website and read this and the Serenity Prayer. You are a mom and you will want to help and that is fine and acceptable...but shake out the excessive emotional part of it as best as you can so that you can enjoy others in your life like a spouse, other children, good friends....see the beauty that is still around you. Let your mantra be...that a Higher Power and good doctors will help your son help himself and that you are a strong woman and can 'handle' anything that may or may not come down the pike. In the meantime, you are going to help your son as best as you are able, but you are going to enjoy life to the fullest anyway. Again, I am sorry. (Hugs) [/QUOTE]
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