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<blockquote data-quote="trinityroyal" data-source="post: 315709" data-attributes="member: 3907"><p>Steely,</p><p></p><p>My inclination would be to keep Matt in the program, as Janet says, at least until he's 20 or 21 and has had a chance to mature some more.</p><p></p><p>I understand the feeling of holding all the cards, and wondering whether you've made the right choice. When you first put Matt in this program it seemed like the right choice for him. What were the reasons for that? They more than likely still apply now.</p><p></p><p>Sue, I can completely relate to your description of thank you, as my difficult child is so much like that in his thoughts and actions. If it requires any effort at all beyond breathing in and out, difficult child wants nothing to do with it. My difficult child is in a highly structured, 100% supervised Residential Treatment Center (RTC)/Assisted Living program with 24/7 wraparound support. He has acquired life skills, self care skills, even academic and vocational skills (and I never thought I'd see the day THAT would happen). Thing is, outside of the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) environment, he regresses right back to square one. The only reason he does anything is that the program makes it much easier to follow the rules than not to. They know difficult child's buttons and they push them.</p><p></p><p>Slowly but surely life skills are sinking into difficult child's head, despite himself. I wonder if Matt is experiencing the same thing. Sometimes the pressure of that can cause them to want to bolt, even though they know that staying is good for them. I wonder if, like my difficult child, Matt breaks rules so that he can have a more tightly controlled environment around him because he is incapable of just coming out and asking for help. </p><p></p><p>I'm sorry I'm rambling, but I'm thinking as I type.</p><p></p><p>I agree with others who have said that you shouldn't second-guess yourself. It sounds like the program is the right place for Matt to be right now.</p><p></p><p>Trinity</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="trinityroyal, post: 315709, member: 3907"] Steely, My inclination would be to keep Matt in the program, as Janet says, at least until he's 20 or 21 and has had a chance to mature some more. I understand the feeling of holding all the cards, and wondering whether you've made the right choice. When you first put Matt in this program it seemed like the right choice for him. What were the reasons for that? They more than likely still apply now. Sue, I can completely relate to your description of thank you, as my difficult child is so much like that in his thoughts and actions. If it requires any effort at all beyond breathing in and out, difficult child wants nothing to do with it. My difficult child is in a highly structured, 100% supervised Residential Treatment Center (RTC)/Assisted Living program with 24/7 wraparound support. He has acquired life skills, self care skills, even academic and vocational skills (and I never thought I'd see the day THAT would happen). Thing is, outside of the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) environment, he regresses right back to square one. The only reason he does anything is that the program makes it much easier to follow the rules than not to. They know difficult child's buttons and they push them. Slowly but surely life skills are sinking into difficult child's head, despite himself. I wonder if Matt is experiencing the same thing. Sometimes the pressure of that can cause them to want to bolt, even though they know that staying is good for them. I wonder if, like my difficult child, Matt breaks rules so that he can have a more tightly controlled environment around him because he is incapable of just coming out and asking for help. I'm sorry I'm rambling, but I'm thinking as I type. I agree with others who have said that you shouldn't second-guess yourself. It sounds like the program is the right place for Matt to be right now. Trinity [/QUOTE]
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