As I've posted before, CPS removed my grandson from his father and has also not allowed my difficult child (grandson's mother) to have unsupervised visitation. As per usual, everyone was ordered to have psychological evaluations. All of the involved parties have been instructed and are indeed in therapy and taking parenting classes. I speak often with the CPS caseworker. They are befuddled by my difficult child. They know something is not right, but can't put their finger on it. I have not wanted to be real specific about her past, because I feel that at this time in her life she should either rise or fall on her own merit. I did tell the caseworker that I didn't know exactly (and I don't) what her problem is, but I know she has one and have talked with my difficult child about it. She denies any problem and gets VERY angry with me the few times I have brought it up encouraging her to get help. A couple of months ago, I was able to speak to the caseworker and told her that my difficult child did have some sort of mental health issue, but I didn't know what it was and I asked her if she could make services available to her. I told her that I felt that my difficult child could possible qualify for disability because of it. My difficult child took her time completing her psychiatric evaluation. It appears that CPS goes ahead and signs everyone up for therapy even before their evaluation results come back. My difficult child has been going to therapy. She doesn't speak to me about it and I really didn't expect that she would. I have asked the caseworker if she could / would share the parents psychiatric results with me, for my own curiosity and as a way to get help for my grandson. I know that due to Hipaa and privacy laws there was no way she could legally share with *me*. My grandsons therapist and psychiatrist yes. Well, today I attended a permanency hearing regarding my grandson and in the conversation and accounting of what the parents have completed, the CPS caseworker mentioned that my difficult child was in therapy AND that she has been referred to MHMR based on her evaluation. Well, I guess some red flags did show up after all. I know she is not retarded....... I still have no clue what, but it appears that they are making extra services available to her. I think I'm happy about that. Just to give you an idea of what we're working with here............ When the facilitator asked my difficult child where she wanted to see her son placed, my difficult child answered..... "either with me or his dad, whoever is safer". What kind of mother answers like that? Don't answer that, I already know. My difficult child brought a new "toy" with her to this meeting............... She was sporting and keeping herself occupied typing and playing with a small Dell laptop. No, she was not taking notes. She also had to leave the room to once make and then answer a phone call. OMG. And to give you guys just a hint about his father............... The father denies that our grandson had any "issues" or behavioral problems before he was placed in foster care. I practically bit my tongue OFF, forcing myself not to say, so that is why he was constantly in trouble in school, everyday, and that is why he was peeing and pooping all over your house, and that is why he would get up in the middle of the night and sneak and eat half a loaf of bread, and that is why on two occasions he actually hung his 1 yr. old sister out of a window and that is why in the middle of the night at 4 yrs. old, he managed to sneak out of his bedroom window and go to the neighbors house and the final straw, that is why when his father was not at home and his live in other babies mama was sleeping in the morning, that same 4 yr. old unlocked the front door to runaway from home. Instead, I suggested that when all of these problems were going on that, that was the time that they needed to seek out help. That idiot actually had the nerve to speak down to me and tell me that in their family, (smacking hands together for effect)when a child misbehaves, they DO NOT take that child to a doctor! THEY................. take care of that problem themselves. I explained that yes, if you have a run of the mill naughty 4 yr. old, then yes, by all means handle that on your own, but when the problems were as severe and ongoing as these had been, they needed to make more of an effort to get help. I can't stand even talking to these ignorant people. They will lie and defend their asinine behaviors to their death. UGH!