as I went in very prepared. All my e-mails, teacher reports, medical reports, school recomendations,police report info,etc..were all in plastic covers, organized by category and in one huge notebook. I also looked up the kids' disorders which I made copies of,including the suggested treatment,discipline and things to avoid. I also took a tape recorder, which I was given permission to use. They apologized for handling Friday wrong and assured me that they would put in place a better plan for discipline. They are also going to reward my son every 30 minutes for good appropriate behavior. The principal, SAT/MET chair person,school Special Education counselor,bus superintendent,district superintendent and his teacher were there. I brought his personal counselor too. The ball is now moving in the right direction and they know they cant mess with my boys and their educational needs. I declined the IEP meeting until the Occupational Therapist (OT) has seen peanut. This will be resolved next week when he returns to school. I have heard to many horror stories of how the school district leaves stuff out of a IEP. My advice to any of you dealing with similar situations..Document everything,keep a paper trail of communication with the school,have copies diagnosis's and their discriptions,research what your options are regarding handling your difficult child's diagnosis in school & in an IEP, and totally tape record your meetings. This was the most successful meeting I have ever had and its all because I listened to advice and did my research. Thank you for your support, it has helped so much.