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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 448022" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>It was heartbreaking BEFORE I met them, although I had adjusted to not having him in my life.</p><p></p><p>It is no longer heartbreaking. I realize that we don't have much to say to each other anymore and that this chapter has closed and been resolved. He obviously has more anger/issues that he exhibits, at least toward me. I have no desire to keep this relationship going anymore. And that's a good thing. I'm in a bit of a pensive mood, but am not depressed. I'm just glad I didn't adopt any other older kids. I don't believe those kids normally attach the way they should to their families. </p><p></p><p>I'm done.</p><p></p><p>As for being a good father and husband, his wife is perfect for him. She grew up in China and her culture is different, even now. I'm am sure he is GREAT with his little boy. I am NOT sure he will be great with him if his son decides that he has a mind of his own. If he is a dutiful son who follows their way of thinking, he will remain a good father. But..they are very rigid. </p><p></p><p>I am positive that S. wishes he'd had a rich, highly educated family...his version of a family. No divorce (he is very religious and to him divorce is a sin). I think perhaps his overly controlling ways as well his unusual neatness may be part of feeling helpless when he was younger and living in an orphanage for six years. I have no idea. I'm not going to press any further.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 448022, member: 1550"] It was heartbreaking BEFORE I met them, although I had adjusted to not having him in my life. It is no longer heartbreaking. I realize that we don't have much to say to each other anymore and that this chapter has closed and been resolved. He obviously has more anger/issues that he exhibits, at least toward me. I have no desire to keep this relationship going anymore. And that's a good thing. I'm in a bit of a pensive mood, but am not depressed. I'm just glad I didn't adopt any other older kids. I don't believe those kids normally attach the way they should to their families. I'm done. As for being a good father and husband, his wife is perfect for him. She grew up in China and her culture is different, even now. I'm am sure he is GREAT with his little boy. I am NOT sure he will be great with him if his son decides that he has a mind of his own. If he is a dutiful son who follows their way of thinking, he will remain a good father. But..they are very rigid. I am positive that S. wishes he'd had a rich, highly educated family...his version of a family. No divorce (he is very religious and to him divorce is a sin). I think perhaps his overly controlling ways as well his unusual neatness may be part of feeling helpless when he was younger and living in an orphanage for six years. I have no idea. I'm not going to press any further. [/QUOTE]
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