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<blockquote data-quote="MuM_of_OCD_kiddo" data-source="post: 448032" data-attributes="member: 12241"><p>Am I the only one who sees extreme thought/ritual Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) here? </p><p></p><p>All the rules about when, where, how to call/ conditions of visits etc; the being extremely ridgid and judgemental; the neatnick-ness; not wanting people in the home or an intolerance for visitors [can cause a major meltdown and with the cleaning type tends to generate major domestic upheaval and prolonged bouts of cleaning - not kidding either]; a domestic[ated], obedient, submissive wife that will not make waves and sowith not trigger an Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) meltdown; an extremely obedient and low key child that has learned to keep a low profile for the same reasons - all that put together just screams of extreme thought and ritualistic Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) to me. My guess is he chose a wife from a traditional chinese family, because of the submissiveness of many of the women in this culture.</p><p></p><p>I'm not to confuse or make you rethink your decision [peace to you!], but he probably actually feels that he is unbending for you, by giving you all the rules to follow so you can stay in contact or visit. When my son started on his Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) journey, all I had ever known about it was what I had seen on TV - mainly "Sleeping with the enemy", LOL. There are entire Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) dimensions that are pure thought, obsession and ritual based - that have nothing to do with the mainstream hand washing, endless showering or house cleaning - and he sure sounds like a prime candidate for multiple combinations of this. Add to this his anger, sense of entitlement, and other issues - I can see why he is very difficult to deal with. </p><p></p><p>You are doing the right thing in my opinion - he is an adult [and financially successful at that] and he makes his own bed to lay in. I am glad that you are able to detach and move on, and focus on what is rewarding rather than unasked for punishment. You go girl! Yay for you! Hugs!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="MuM_of_OCD_kiddo, post: 448032, member: 12241"] Am I the only one who sees extreme thought/ritual Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) here? All the rules about when, where, how to call/ conditions of visits etc; the being extremely ridgid and judgemental; the neatnick-ness; not wanting people in the home or an intolerance for visitors [can cause a major meltdown and with the cleaning type tends to generate major domestic upheaval and prolonged bouts of cleaning - not kidding either]; a domestic[ated], obedient, submissive wife that will not make waves and sowith not trigger an Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) meltdown; an extremely obedient and low key child that has learned to keep a low profile for the same reasons - all that put together just screams of extreme thought and ritualistic Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) to me. My guess is he chose a wife from a traditional chinese family, because of the submissiveness of many of the women in this culture. I'm not to confuse or make you rethink your decision [peace to you!], but he probably actually feels that he is unbending for you, by giving you all the rules to follow so you can stay in contact or visit. When my son started on his Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) journey, all I had ever known about it was what I had seen on TV - mainly "Sleeping with the enemy", LOL. There are entire Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) dimensions that are pure thought, obsession and ritual based - that have nothing to do with the mainstream hand washing, endless showering or house cleaning - and he sure sounds like a prime candidate for multiple combinations of this. Add to this his anger, sense of entitlement, and other issues - I can see why he is very difficult to deal with. You are doing the right thing in my opinion - he is an adult [and financially successful at that] and he makes his own bed to lay in. I am glad that you are able to detach and move on, and focus on what is rewarding rather than unasked for punishment. You go girl! Yay for you! Hugs! [/QUOTE]
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