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<blockquote data-quote="Mattsmom277" data-source="post: 448112" data-attributes="member: 4264"><p>An idea re: your request for suggestions on things to do to help you heal. I was thinking maybe a letting go ceremony of sorts, for you, not for anyone else. Perhaps a little bundle containing a few pics of him young and how you would prefer to remember him, a goodbye letter with no regrets just wishes for his future on his own with his wife and children, anything else you felt meaningful. Then perhaps a quiet few moments alone outside with a little fire and glass of wine, box of kleenex. Taking some time to reflect back on the moments that made him special to you as you raised him, sending the love you have for him into the cosmos symbolically to him, then reflecting on the peace you wish for now that it is clear he is not again going to be a part of your life or family. Then when ready, letting that little bundle turn to ash and blow away to the winds, as your pain must for you to heal. Alternately, you could set the bundle onto something floating and let it go on the water somewhere. I do think that somehow it might help you if you find a symbolic way to release all the good and bad emotions you are bound to have regarding your son. </p><p></p><p>I liked the comment you made "I feel freer". That is what I'm sure we all here wish for you. A freeing experience to move on without him in your life, which is how its been for a long time, but minus the unknown reasons, the conflicting ideas of letting go or reaching out. </p><p></p><p>Wishing you peace at long last and I also want to acknowledge you as "Mother".</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mattsmom277, post: 448112, member: 4264"] An idea re: your request for suggestions on things to do to help you heal. I was thinking maybe a letting go ceremony of sorts, for you, not for anyone else. Perhaps a little bundle containing a few pics of him young and how you would prefer to remember him, a goodbye letter with no regrets just wishes for his future on his own with his wife and children, anything else you felt meaningful. Then perhaps a quiet few moments alone outside with a little fire and glass of wine, box of kleenex. Taking some time to reflect back on the moments that made him special to you as you raised him, sending the love you have for him into the cosmos symbolically to him, then reflecting on the peace you wish for now that it is clear he is not again going to be a part of your life or family. Then when ready, letting that little bundle turn to ash and blow away to the winds, as your pain must for you to heal. Alternately, you could set the bundle onto something floating and let it go on the water somewhere. I do think that somehow it might help you if you find a symbolic way to release all the good and bad emotions you are bound to have regarding your son. I liked the comment you made "I feel freer". That is what I'm sure we all here wish for you. A freeing experience to move on without him in your life, which is how its been for a long time, but minus the unknown reasons, the conflicting ideas of letting go or reaching out. Wishing you peace at long last and I also want to acknowledge you as "Mother". [/QUOTE]
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