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<blockquote data-quote="Steely" data-source="post: 448146" data-attributes="member: 3301"><p>Just wanted to send affirming hugs and strength.....I am glad you are on your way to closure. I like the idea of some sort of ceremony, religious, or not, to help facilitate closure.</p><p></p><p>As I read all of the statements that S. said, I could only think one word, personality disorder. He is "charming & successful" but many sociopaths are just that. They only care about what gives them immediate pleasure or gain. You do not fill one of those roles in his life, so you are deleted from his list of people for whom he "cares" about. It is really that simple in these people's minds - and no matter how many letters or non-letters you send, or how many times you reach out to him, nothing will change his mind about you being be in his life - except of course if you suddenly started handing him money or fame.</p><p></p><p>In no way can you be held responsible for any of his issues. These are his own, that he created in his head, many of them false it sounds like.</p><p></p><p>Letting go seems like the only answer....which should feel, hopefully rather freeing to you....because you no longer have this albatross of guilt, or need, or anger towards him......you are now able to live again, freely.</p><p></p><p><img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/beautifulthing.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":beautifulthing:" title="beautiful thing :beautifulthing:" data-shortname=":beautifulthing:" /></p><p></p><p>Hugs.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Steely, post: 448146, member: 3301"] Just wanted to send affirming hugs and strength.....I am glad you are on your way to closure. I like the idea of some sort of ceremony, religious, or not, to help facilitate closure. As I read all of the statements that S. said, I could only think one word, personality disorder. He is "charming & successful" but many sociopaths are just that. They only care about what gives them immediate pleasure or gain. You do not fill one of those roles in his life, so you are deleted from his list of people for whom he "cares" about. It is really that simple in these people's minds - and no matter how many letters or non-letters you send, or how many times you reach out to him, nothing will change his mind about you being be in his life - except of course if you suddenly started handing him money or fame. In no way can you be held responsible for any of his issues. These are his own, that he created in his head, many of them false it sounds like. Letting go seems like the only answer....which should feel, hopefully rather freeing to you....because you no longer have this albatross of guilt, or need, or anger towards him......you are now able to live again, freely. :beautifulthing: Hugs. [/QUOTE]
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