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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 448459" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Janet, I haven't seen S. for five years and the "mess" that was me has already passed. Why do you think I wrote him letters? LOL. Trust me, I wanted to give them both a piece of my mind, but, if I had done that, they may have walked out without giving me the details of what they were angry about...with K. saying she was "afraid" of me (lol)...and I knew pretty early in the meeting that this was going to be the last meeting.</p><p></p><p>The tremendous support I am getting from my hub, my kids, my ex, you friends here...that has really helped. </p><p></p><p>I do take my medications faithfully and go to therapy. But it doesn't always work...lol. This time, I guess I was too shocked at what they said and demanded of me, for the honor of marginally being in their lives, was so outrageous that I couldn't even feel sad. I walked out of there feeling "wise, as if a light had gone on" (if that makes sense). I knew, in my heart, that this child, who we adopted with such joy and happiness, does not consider himself a part of us and that I would be smart to walk away and not look back. Since he had been out of my life for five years, it was a lot easier. </p><p></p><p>I am positive my other children would never do anything like this. Sadly, the bond of having a child from a VERY early age is very important and makes a relationship more resilient. I believe that six years old is too old for most children to form a strong family bond (at least in the child's eyes). </p><p></p><p>Janet, I'm sorry you felt I didn't value your advice. In fact, I LOVE your answers and have always valued your advice and you are kind of a role model for me...someone with the same diagnosis who is living in peace with hub, kids and grandkids. The reason I don't usually answer your posts is because your issues are usually not things I am familiar with. But I feel you have done an outstanding job with your loving family. Bless you! You bring much wisdom and strength to this board!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 448459, member: 1550"] Janet, I haven't seen S. for five years and the "mess" that was me has already passed. Why do you think I wrote him letters? LOL. Trust me, I wanted to give them both a piece of my mind, but, if I had done that, they may have walked out without giving me the details of what they were angry about...with K. saying she was "afraid" of me (lol)...and I knew pretty early in the meeting that this was going to be the last meeting. The tremendous support I am getting from my hub, my kids, my ex, you friends here...that has really helped. I do take my medications faithfully and go to therapy. But it doesn't always work...lol. This time, I guess I was too shocked at what they said and demanded of me, for the honor of marginally being in their lives, was so outrageous that I couldn't even feel sad. I walked out of there feeling "wise, as if a light had gone on" (if that makes sense). I knew, in my heart, that this child, who we adopted with such joy and happiness, does not consider himself a part of us and that I would be smart to walk away and not look back. Since he had been out of my life for five years, it was a lot easier. I am positive my other children would never do anything like this. Sadly, the bond of having a child from a VERY early age is very important and makes a relationship more resilient. I believe that six years old is too old for most children to form a strong family bond (at least in the child's eyes). Janet, I'm sorry you felt I didn't value your advice. In fact, I LOVE your answers and have always valued your advice and you are kind of a role model for me...someone with the same diagnosis who is living in peace with hub, kids and grandkids. The reason I don't usually answer your posts is because your issues are usually not things I am familiar with. But I feel you have done an outstanding job with your loving family. Bless you! You bring much wisdom and strength to this board! [/QUOTE]
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