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<blockquote data-quote="slsh" data-source="post: 344194" data-attributes="member: 8"><p>Sharon - it sounds like you've got a good team there. I'm so glad they're being proactive.</p><p></p><p>I think that it will be *really* important to have a good transition plan for difficult child. It's not too early to start looking at options, Sharon, and I'd really very strongly encourage it. I have yet to see a transition plan that is worth a darn. I failed that part of sped advocacy abysmally - neither one of my kids' transition plans is worth the paper it's written on. You also need to be prepared for the possibility that difficult child may decide he has other plans at 18 or whenever. I sincerely *hope* that won't be the case, but... a la old thank you, you may not have much of a choice, and you need to have a backup plan B, C, D, E, and probably F.</p><p></p><p>I know it's hard to imagine where difficult child will be at 18 or 21 or 25, but I think it's really essential that you find out what programs, services, supported employment, living situations are available, *now*. It's far better to over-plan, rather than get hit at 16 or 18 with the possibility that difficult child will need supports past HS and have to start scrambling then. Two or 4 years simply is not enough time to get things together and get a child prepared. In my opinion, transition planning should start well before the mandated 14-1/2 age because it's an excruciatingly slow process and, at least with- my kids, getting the team to focus on anything meaningful in terms of goals was impossible. Boo living on his own and thank you going to college? Yeah, sure, there are some brilliant transition goals. Now, can we rejoin the real world?? <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /> </p><p></p><p>I think the changes to IDEA the last time around made it not mandatory for state agencies to attend IEPs where transition services are discussed. If I had it to do over again, I'd pester the agencies until someone showed up. You need to have a good feel for what is realistically available, not what is available on paper. In my experience, the transition specialist with the SD is only going to know what should be available, not what really is. Boo's had been bugging me for years to sign up for a para transit pass.... which isn't available in our county, LOL. </p><p></p><p>These transitions, from elementary to middle school and then to HS, are a bear. We see the growth in our kids, but sometimes we also get smacked with their ongoing needs. I think you need to take the time to feel badly that he may need more supports and a longer period of time in school, but then you have to remember what the goal is (bless Fran) - a law-abiding, responsible, productive adult. And "productive" is a pretty relative term for some of our kids. Today, I'm content that thank you is healthy, relatively safe, relatively happy. He's still a baby really, even at 19, and while he could be doing so much more, he isn't stagnant, he's still trying. </p><p></p><p>A gentle hug to you - I hope the new schedule will be good for difficult child.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="slsh, post: 344194, member: 8"] Sharon - it sounds like you've got a good team there. I'm so glad they're being proactive. I think that it will be *really* important to have a good transition plan for difficult child. It's not too early to start looking at options, Sharon, and I'd really very strongly encourage it. I have yet to see a transition plan that is worth a darn. I failed that part of sped advocacy abysmally - neither one of my kids' transition plans is worth the paper it's written on. You also need to be prepared for the possibility that difficult child may decide he has other plans at 18 or whenever. I sincerely *hope* that won't be the case, but... a la old thank you, you may not have much of a choice, and you need to have a backup plan B, C, D, E, and probably F. I know it's hard to imagine where difficult child will be at 18 or 21 or 25, but I think it's really essential that you find out what programs, services, supported employment, living situations are available, *now*. It's far better to over-plan, rather than get hit at 16 or 18 with the possibility that difficult child will need supports past HS and have to start scrambling then. Two or 4 years simply is not enough time to get things together and get a child prepared. In my opinion, transition planning should start well before the mandated 14-1/2 age because it's an excruciatingly slow process and, at least with- my kids, getting the team to focus on anything meaningful in terms of goals was impossible. Boo living on his own and thank you going to college? Yeah, sure, there are some brilliant transition goals. Now, can we rejoin the real world?? :winking: I think the changes to IDEA the last time around made it not mandatory for state agencies to attend IEPs where transition services are discussed. If I had it to do over again, I'd pester the agencies until someone showed up. You need to have a good feel for what is realistically available, not what is available on paper. In my experience, the transition specialist with the SD is only going to know what should be available, not what really is. Boo's had been bugging me for years to sign up for a para transit pass.... which isn't available in our county, LOL. These transitions, from elementary to middle school and then to HS, are a bear. We see the growth in our kids, but sometimes we also get smacked with their ongoing needs. I think you need to take the time to feel badly that he may need more supports and a longer period of time in school, but then you have to remember what the goal is (bless Fran) - a law-abiding, responsible, productive adult. And "productive" is a pretty relative term for some of our kids. Today, I'm content that thank you is healthy, relatively safe, relatively happy. He's still a baby really, even at 19, and while he could be doing so much more, he isn't stagnant, he's still trying. A gentle hug to you - I hope the new schedule will be good for difficult child. [/QUOTE]
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