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<blockquote data-quote="Babbs" data-source="post: 56691" data-attributes="member: 3820"><p>Dara,</p><p>I can hear in your posts your pain and frustration. My heart goes out to you. </p><p></p><p>A few things I suggest you consider. First - you mentioned that Sammy has significant language delays. Considering this, could it be possible that what you interpret as being manipulative behavior is his way of attempting communication due to a lack of language skills? Most children with severe language delays have "behavior problems" related to their inability to communicate at their developmental level. Developmentally 3 year olds do not have the cognitive processing to be so highly manipulative. They do understand cause and effect however - and if certain behaviors got them what they wanted once, then yes, they will do those behaviors in order to get what they want again. That is not manipulation - that's simple ABA.</p><p></p><p>Secondly - children with sensory processing problems often have motor delays as a result of the processing problems. If you react to the sensory stimulation in your world differently than most people, then your motor development will occur differently. Instead of viewing the sensory processing treatment as "wasting time" why don't you view it as building a good foundation in order to build good motor skills on top of it? </p><p></p><p>Finally, for some children with sensory processing issues, every new experience is an opportunity to be bombarded by uncomfortable and painful stimulation. So I can easily see why Sammy wants people to stay in their "roles" as you put it. He has been able to get his sensory system to tolerate that single particular type of input and if someone else does it, it's still a novel, unfamiliar experience for him sensory wise. No two people do anything alike - so why would the sensory experience between two people be identical? This can create distress and anxiety in an already overwhelmed system.</p><p></p><p>Yes, two months in toddler time is a long time. However, getting a good foundation now to build motor and language skills on will help Sammy more in the long run then having to backtrack later on and perhaps spin your wheels for months or even years without the good sensory supports.</p><p></p><p>The best of luck to you and Sammy. Sammy is very fortunate to have concern parents who identified issues early and are seeking help and support.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Babbs, post: 56691, member: 3820"] Dara, I can hear in your posts your pain and frustration. My heart goes out to you. A few things I suggest you consider. First - you mentioned that Sammy has significant language delays. Considering this, could it be possible that what you interpret as being manipulative behavior is his way of attempting communication due to a lack of language skills? Most children with severe language delays have "behavior problems" related to their inability to communicate at their developmental level. Developmentally 3 year olds do not have the cognitive processing to be so highly manipulative. They do understand cause and effect however - and if certain behaviors got them what they wanted once, then yes, they will do those behaviors in order to get what they want again. That is not manipulation - that's simple ABA. Secondly - children with sensory processing problems often have motor delays as a result of the processing problems. If you react to the sensory stimulation in your world differently than most people, then your motor development will occur differently. Instead of viewing the sensory processing treatment as "wasting time" why don't you view it as building a good foundation in order to build good motor skills on top of it? Finally, for some children with sensory processing issues, every new experience is an opportunity to be bombarded by uncomfortable and painful stimulation. So I can easily see why Sammy wants people to stay in their "roles" as you put it. He has been able to get his sensory system to tolerate that single particular type of input and if someone else does it, it's still a novel, unfamiliar experience for him sensory wise. No two people do anything alike - so why would the sensory experience between two people be identical? This can create distress and anxiety in an already overwhelmed system. Yes, two months in toddler time is a long time. However, getting a good foundation now to build motor and language skills on will help Sammy more in the long run then having to backtrack later on and perhaps spin your wheels for months or even years without the good sensory supports. The best of luck to you and Sammy. Sammy is very fortunate to have concern parents who identified issues early and are seeking help and support. [/QUOTE]
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