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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 82939" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Cheryl, you said, "... my own feeling is that it was not the "triggers" like specifically the throwing away the fries that is the problem. Many times I have avoided one landmind only to have one blow up in my face just minutes later."</p><p></p><p>You may be right. In which case the triggers could simply be the environment and the level of stimulation he's trying to deal with. But that's what I mean about making your own observations - that is a really valuable one you made.</p><p></p><p>Don't beat yourself up over him being set off, or your perceived failure to prevent it. We all try, but we don't always succeed. All you can do is keep trying and hope that with practice, experience (his and yours) as well as him getting a bit older and maybe more control, the problem will begin to ease.</p><p></p><p>The clothes removal - he IS only 3, socially it's not as bad as if he were 13. But clearly something is going on here way beyond the usual problems of a young, active, overstimulated difficult child. You are right to be concerned.</p><p></p><p>And a bit of help would be a good idea - not only an extra pair of hands, but also an independent witness.</p><p></p><p>Or maybe take your in-laws along? They think you're overreacting, don't they? So either they're right (in which case he will behave beautifully, so at least it won't be a bad day for you) or they will be forced to see his true colours and admit you are really struggling with a big problem, instead of simply complaining about nothing.</p><p></p><p>Family members are often the last to accept there really is a problem. It's so much harder to accept, with people you love and idolise. And they would love to believe that you're nuts, rather than accept their grandson has genuine, big problems. It's normal for them to be like this - but hopefully, if they're anything like my family, they will have to accept the obvious eventually.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 82939, member: 1991"] Cheryl, you said, "... my own feeling is that it was not the "triggers" like specifically the throwing away the fries that is the problem. Many times I have avoided one landmind only to have one blow up in my face just minutes later." You may be right. In which case the triggers could simply be the environment and the level of stimulation he's trying to deal with. But that's what I mean about making your own observations - that is a really valuable one you made. Don't beat yourself up over him being set off, or your perceived failure to prevent it. We all try, but we don't always succeed. All you can do is keep trying and hope that with practice, experience (his and yours) as well as him getting a bit older and maybe more control, the problem will begin to ease. The clothes removal - he IS only 3, socially it's not as bad as if he were 13. But clearly something is going on here way beyond the usual problems of a young, active, overstimulated difficult child. You are right to be concerned. And a bit of help would be a good idea - not only an extra pair of hands, but also an independent witness. Or maybe take your in-laws along? They think you're overreacting, don't they? So either they're right (in which case he will behave beautifully, so at least it won't be a bad day for you) or they will be forced to see his true colours and admit you are really struggling with a big problem, instead of simply complaining about nothing. Family members are often the last to accept there really is a problem. It's so much harder to accept, with people you love and idolise. And they would love to believe that you're nuts, rather than accept their grandson has genuine, big problems. It's normal for them to be like this - but hopefully, if they're anything like my family, they will have to accept the obvious eventually. Marg [/QUOTE]
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