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<blockquote data-quote="confuzzled" data-source="post: 396528" data-attributes="member: 8831"><p>glad to hear you got an appointment.</p><p> </p><p>i just wanted to comment a bit on the school meltdown.</p><p> </p><p>i'm sure you are right that no one said (she's stupid, she failed, insert whatever negativity you'd like here). but i did want to say you might be astounded at the pressure the schools put on these kids to "pass the test". for someone with high anxiety and impossible perfectionism it can become the perfect storm--it really is a pressure cooker environment. its pathetic really.</p><p> </p><p>if her coping skills arent the best, and her <em>perception </em>is that she didnt do well, it kind of follows that it might be tough for her.</p><p> </p><p>and the particular kind of "pre-assessment" test is the biggest offender of all. *OF COURSE* she wont have mastered everything, but in *HER MIND* its a test, and she should know the answers, and shes just "stupid" because she doesnt. she seemingly over-reacted, but i think if put yourself in her shoes and see it from her perspective (not an adult perspective) its a bit easier to understand. and if i had to guess, the teacher wasnt exactly clear on what this test was about--on a good day they might allude to the fact that kids won't know the answers...but chances are, not too big of a deal was made over that point.</p><p> </p><p>i'm certainly not saying she should have meltdowns--but i really empathize with her, and honestly she's not the only kid who's thought like that.</p><p> </p><p>but i know its frustrating from a grown-up standpoint :-D</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="confuzzled, post: 396528, member: 8831"] glad to hear you got an appointment. i just wanted to comment a bit on the school meltdown. i'm sure you are right that no one said (she's stupid, she failed, insert whatever negativity you'd like here). but i did want to say you might be astounded at the pressure the schools put on these kids to "pass the test". for someone with high anxiety and impossible perfectionism it can become the perfect storm--it really is a pressure cooker environment. its pathetic really. if her coping skills arent the best, and her [I]perception [/I]is that she didnt do well, it kind of follows that it might be tough for her. and the particular kind of "pre-assessment" test is the biggest offender of all. *OF COURSE* she wont have mastered everything, but in *HER MIND* its a test, and she should know the answers, and shes just "stupid" because she doesnt. she seemingly over-reacted, but i think if put yourself in her shoes and see it from her perspective (not an adult perspective) its a bit easier to understand. and if i had to guess, the teacher wasnt exactly clear on what this test was about--on a good day they might allude to the fact that kids won't know the answers...but chances are, not too big of a deal was made over that point. i'm certainly not saying she should have meltdowns--but i really empathize with her, and honestly she's not the only kid who's thought like that. but i know its frustrating from a grown-up standpoint :-D [/QUOTE]
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