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<blockquote data-quote="timer lady" data-source="post: 91226" data-attributes="member: 393"><p>Grounding, in my humble opinion, is always worse on the parent than on the child. Having said that, your difficult child is 11 y/o, probably 6 or 7 emotionally. If she is to be grounded you may well have to get some activities set out for her in her room.</p><p></p><p>Whether it be television (especially if you need sleep after a night shift), game boy, colors, dolls, whatever catches her interest for periods of time.</p><p></p><p>If kt or wm were grounded they were grounded at my side. That was the only way it worked. Being grounded at my side meant doing what I needed to do - cleaning the bathroom, sorting, folding laundry, making dinner, dishes, ect. </p><p></p><p>And they were grounded at my side because they could not tolerate being alone; had no clue how to self calm or amuse themselves. </p><p></p><p>I'm making no criticism here - I'm reminding you that your difficult child probably doesn't have the skills to be grounded & self amusing. It's a learning process that some of our difficult children never get.l</p><p></p><p>In the meantime, keep your cool. Walk away if you need to - a break in the bathroom. Whatever.</p><p></p><p>I'll be keeping you & yours in my thoughts.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="timer lady, post: 91226, member: 393"] Grounding, in my humble opinion, is always worse on the parent than on the child. Having said that, your difficult child is 11 y/o, probably 6 or 7 emotionally. If she is to be grounded you may well have to get some activities set out for her in her room. Whether it be television (especially if you need sleep after a night shift), game boy, colors, dolls, whatever catches her interest for periods of time. If kt or wm were grounded they were grounded at my side. That was the only way it worked. Being grounded at my side meant doing what I needed to do - cleaning the bathroom, sorting, folding laundry, making dinner, dishes, ect. And they were grounded at my side because they could not tolerate being alone; had no clue how to self calm or amuse themselves. I'm making no criticism here - I'm reminding you that your difficult child probably doesn't have the skills to be grounded & self amusing. It's a learning process that some of our difficult children never get.l In the meantime, keep your cool. Walk away if you need to - a break in the bathroom. Whatever. I'll be keeping you & yours in my thoughts. [/QUOTE]
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