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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 91227" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Ok, a few questions and comments.</p><p>1/ Who diagnosed her and when was her last diagnosis? To me it sounds like more is going on than ADHD and ODD. Has she ever had a neuropsychologist evaluation? </p><p>2/ Are there mood disorders and/or substance abuse on either side of the family tree?</p><p>3/Is she on medications? If so, they aren't working. If not, maybe she needs medications, but I'm not convinced ADHD medications are "it" for her. I'd definitely get a new evaluation to be sure.</p><p></p><p>My first comment addresses the slapping. Yes, our kids make us crazy, but in my opinion slapping is about the worst reaction for these types of kids (or any kids) and it doesn't work. But it DOES fuel the kids and make them think hitting is ok. Slapping sounds like more than hitting. I'd try to see a therapist who can help you deal better when your kid puts you over-the-top. Since you were abused, it may seem mild to you that you slap your daughter, but it may not be mild at all--I think it's best not to slap/hit/hurt. It's too easy to reel out of control. (((Hugs and understanding, no condemnation)))</p><p>Secondly, if being alone sets her off, I wouldn't do it. Why make your life difficult? Obviously, she isn't going to listen anyways. </p><p>Buy "The Explosive Child" by Ross Greene and use his methods until you have a good evaluation/diagnosis and she is stable. I'm not sure she can control herself from being so nasty. She could be so miserable that it comes out that way--certainly, she is at least as unhappy as you are. I have a mood disorder, and have all my life, and it's really a very hard thing to live with until you are on the right medications. Something isn't right with your child, and she probably won't get better until the treatment for her disorder (whatever it/they are) is being adequately taken care of. Right now, it's not. Whoever is treating her just isn't going in the right direction or is treating her for the wrong disorder. It's not YOUR fault--it's his professioanl's fault. You're a good mom, just trying your best with a difficult child. Good luck!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 91227, member: 1550"] Ok, a few questions and comments. 1/ Who diagnosed her and when was her last diagnosis? To me it sounds like more is going on than ADHD and ODD. Has she ever had a neuropsychologist evaluation? 2/ Are there mood disorders and/or substance abuse on either side of the family tree? 3/Is she on medications? If so, they aren't working. If not, maybe she needs medications, but I'm not convinced ADHD medications are "it" for her. I'd definitely get a new evaluation to be sure. My first comment addresses the slapping. Yes, our kids make us crazy, but in my opinion slapping is about the worst reaction for these types of kids (or any kids) and it doesn't work. But it DOES fuel the kids and make them think hitting is ok. Slapping sounds like more than hitting. I'd try to see a therapist who can help you deal better when your kid puts you over-the-top. Since you were abused, it may seem mild to you that you slap your daughter, but it may not be mild at all--I think it's best not to slap/hit/hurt. It's too easy to reel out of control. (((Hugs and understanding, no condemnation))) Secondly, if being alone sets her off, I wouldn't do it. Why make your life difficult? Obviously, she isn't going to listen anyways. Buy "The Explosive Child" by Ross Greene and use his methods until you have a good evaluation/diagnosis and she is stable. I'm not sure she can control herself from being so nasty. She could be so miserable that it comes out that way--certainly, she is at least as unhappy as you are. I have a mood disorder, and have all my life, and it's really a very hard thing to live with until you are on the right medications. Something isn't right with your child, and she probably won't get better until the treatment for her disorder (whatever it/they are) is being adequately taken care of. Right now, it's not. Whoever is treating her just isn't going in the right direction or is treating her for the wrong disorder. It's not YOUR fault--it's his professioanl's fault. You're a good mom, just trying your best with a difficult child. Good luck! [/QUOTE]
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