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mental illness = weakness?
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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 412142" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>There are people who believe this. Personally, I don't care what it is called as long as my kid gets help. It sounds like your mom just wants to throw blame around and that isn't helpful. It may be that you have to cut a lot of the ties to your mom. Maybe don't tell her things again except that things are fine and all is going along well. If you don't give her any info then she cannot blame you for problems, Know what I mean??</p><p> </p><p>You may need to take a break from her completely, or simply put boundaries in place. You may consider telling her that she is entitled to her opinion but not to inflict it upon you or your kids. That if she cannot be supportive then you won't tell her what is going on. Or just stop tellign her. It isn't easy and often people who toss blame around like that get upset when boundaries are imposed and enforced. That needs to be her problem, not yours. </p><p> </p><p>Many of us have family that reacts or did react that way when they learned of problems with our kids. Some came around and were supportive, others simply had to have those boundaries strengthened.</p><p></p><p>Remember, just because she is your mom and she said it doesn't mean it is true. Do what you feel is right for YOUR kids. Your mom got to do that with hers, Know what I mean??</p><p> </p><p>(((((hugs))))) I know it is hurtful.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 412142, member: 1233"] There are people who believe this. Personally, I don't care what it is called as long as my kid gets help. It sounds like your mom just wants to throw blame around and that isn't helpful. It may be that you have to cut a lot of the ties to your mom. Maybe don't tell her things again except that things are fine and all is going along well. If you don't give her any info then she cannot blame you for problems, Know what I mean?? You may need to take a break from her completely, or simply put boundaries in place. You may consider telling her that she is entitled to her opinion but not to inflict it upon you or your kids. That if she cannot be supportive then you won't tell her what is going on. Or just stop tellign her. It isn't easy and often people who toss blame around like that get upset when boundaries are imposed and enforced. That needs to be her problem, not yours. Many of us have family that reacts or did react that way when they learned of problems with our kids. Some came around and were supportive, others simply had to have those boundaries strengthened. Remember, just because she is your mom and she said it doesn't mean it is true. Do what you feel is right for YOUR kids. Your mom got to do that with hers, Know what I mean?? (((((hugs))))) I know it is hurtful. [/QUOTE]
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