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Merry Christmas to everyone, and a tip for surviving the Holidays
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<blockquote data-quote="ScentofCedar" data-source="post: 326251" data-attributes="member: 3353"><p>Hello to everyone who helped me through my own tough times, and to everyone who came here after I stopped coming so often. For those still wondering whether we ever make it through to peace and sanity in our lives again ~ yes, we do. I did, and you will, too. Our son did stop using ~ on his own, and in his own time. </p><p></p><p>Other than learning the skills of detaching (thank you, everyone!), we had absolutely nothing to do with his decision to turn his life around.</p><p></p><p>That is an important lesson to learn.</p><p></p><p>I wanted to write today to share something with you that helped me survive those holidays (or birthdays, or other special family events) when things were not so good for our family.</p><p></p><p>So, here it is.</p><p></p><p>Think of some special something you can do for yourself at the end of the dinner or the day or the visit ~ whatever the event is that you know is going to be chaotic (at best!) and a devastation, at worst. For me, that was making myself a cup of tea in a special china cup that had belonged to my Grandmother. I would sit alone in the quiet after the catastrophe, after everyone had left or gone to bed. It sounds so simple (and it is). But knowing that once the chaos had happened, I would be sitting quietly, drinking hot, sugary tea from my Grandmother's cup would help me to be stronger WHILE the chaos was happening...and would even signal my survival (to myself) once it was over.</p><p></p><p>Wishing each of us the strength and compassion we need to see the holidays through.</p><p></p><p>Barbara</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ScentofCedar, post: 326251, member: 3353"] Hello to everyone who helped me through my own tough times, and to everyone who came here after I stopped coming so often. For those still wondering whether we ever make it through to peace and sanity in our lives again ~ yes, we do. I did, and you will, too. Our son did stop using ~ on his own, and in his own time. Other than learning the skills of detaching (thank you, everyone!), we had absolutely nothing to do with his decision to turn his life around. That is an important lesson to learn. I wanted to write today to share something with you that helped me survive those holidays (or birthdays, or other special family events) when things were not so good for our family. So, here it is. Think of some special something you can do for yourself at the end of the dinner or the day or the visit ~ whatever the event is that you know is going to be chaotic (at best!) and a devastation, at worst. For me, that was making myself a cup of tea in a special china cup that had belonged to my Grandmother. I would sit alone in the quiet after the catastrophe, after everyone had left or gone to bed. It sounds so simple (and it is). But knowing that once the chaos had happened, I would be sitting quietly, drinking hot, sugary tea from my Grandmother's cup would help me to be stronger WHILE the chaos was happening...and would even signal my survival (to myself) once it was over. Wishing each of us the strength and compassion we need to see the holidays through. Barbara [/QUOTE]
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