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Merry Christmas to everyone, and a tip for surviving the Holidays
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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 328860"><p>What a wonderful update and wonderful advice as well.</p><p> </p><p>I too am grateful for warm/good advice received here.</p><p> </p><p>Detachment insight has always been particularly powerful.</p><p> </p><p>The holidays can be rough for everyone, but how much harder for families who have lost a loved one or who are going through diffiulties, esp. ongoing difficulties...as is often the case in our families.</p><p> </p><p>For us, each year is different...yet the same. Our difficult child always has problems at Christmas. Always. 100% of the time. This year, we are not with her. I am wondering, what this means. Hmmmm. She actually seems happier. Sigh.</p><p> </p><p>And, I have "other" baggage too...the early death of my mother for example that sometimes comes to mind.</p><p> </p><p>This year, I am visiting our newly married son. difficult child was to come with us, but changed her mind last second.</p><p> </p><p>I see the new bride has her own "stuff" to deal with. Different though. More "logistics," not drama trauma.</p><p> </p><p>Nevertheless....its good to have a plan. A way to cope. A way to calm ourselves when the stimulus comes....</p><p> </p><p>For me...husband and I have learned to go to a Christmas movie on the "big" day. </p><p> </p><p>For some reason....we usually find this to be fun. Sometimes we take family, sometimes not. But its a very pleasant/fun distraction. I also sometimes call good friends and/or send emails to folks that are special to me.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 328860"] What a wonderful update and wonderful advice as well. I too am grateful for warm/good advice received here. Detachment insight has always been particularly powerful. The holidays can be rough for everyone, but how much harder for families who have lost a loved one or who are going through diffiulties, esp. ongoing difficulties...as is often the case in our families. For us, each year is different...yet the same. Our difficult child always has problems at Christmas. Always. 100% of the time. This year, we are not with her. I am wondering, what this means. Hmmmm. She actually seems happier. Sigh. And, I have "other" baggage too...the early death of my mother for example that sometimes comes to mind. This year, I am visiting our newly married son. difficult child was to come with us, but changed her mind last second. I see the new bride has her own "stuff" to deal with. Different though. More "logistics," not drama trauma. Nevertheless....its good to have a plan. A way to cope. A way to calm ourselves when the stimulus comes.... For me...husband and I have learned to go to a Christmas movie on the "big" day. For some reason....we usually find this to be fun. Sometimes we take family, sometimes not. But its a very pleasant/fun distraction. I also sometimes call good friends and/or send emails to folks that are special to me. [/QUOTE]
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