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<blockquote data-quote="Tanya M" data-source="post: 738269" data-attributes="member: 18516"><p>I'm going to chime in on being responsible regardless of our childhood.</p><p></p><p>As many of you know, my bio-father sexually abused me as a child. Once my mother found out about it she divorced him. My bio-father swore in court that it would never happen again and he was granted visitation. My mother sent me to my bio-fathers for court ordered visitation and the abuse continued. It did finally come to an end and I was no longer to be alone with him, all visits were supervised.</p><p></p><p>Did I have issues from this? Yes but I never blamed my mother and I never took on the role of a victim.</p><p></p><p>My bio-father was sick in the head plain and simple. What he did was wrong but I made a choice to not live in a victim role. I made a choice to live the best life I could regardless of my childhood. I have made plenty of mistakes along the way but I have owned up to them. I never transferred blame to my mother or bio-father. </p><p></p><p>There are many stories of people who have suffered the most horrible childhoods and go on to be responsible, respectful people. There are also many stories of people who have had wonderful, love filled childhoods who go on to be difficult adult children.</p><p></p><p>For me, bottom line, life is filled with choices that we as individuals are faced with every day. We all know right from wrong. Even a 2 year old knows that lying is wrong but they will do it anyway. We all come to an age of awareness. We all have the capacity to change the direction of our lives by the choices we make.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tanya M, post: 738269, member: 18516"] I'm going to chime in on being responsible regardless of our childhood. As many of you know, my bio-father sexually abused me as a child. Once my mother found out about it she divorced him. My bio-father swore in court that it would never happen again and he was granted visitation. My mother sent me to my bio-fathers for court ordered visitation and the abuse continued. It did finally come to an end and I was no longer to be alone with him, all visits were supervised. Did I have issues from this? Yes but I never blamed my mother and I never took on the role of a victim. My bio-father was sick in the head plain and simple. What he did was wrong but I made a choice to not live in a victim role. I made a choice to live the best life I could regardless of my childhood. I have made plenty of mistakes along the way but I have owned up to them. I never transferred blame to my mother or bio-father. There are many stories of people who have suffered the most horrible childhoods and go on to be responsible, respectful people. There are also many stories of people who have had wonderful, love filled childhoods who go on to be difficult adult children. For me, bottom line, life is filled with choices that we as individuals are faced with every day. We all know right from wrong. Even a 2 year old knows that lying is wrong but they will do it anyway. We all come to an age of awareness. We all have the capacity to change the direction of our lives by the choices we make. [/QUOTE]
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