I know it is a pain in the rear that Katie's family doesn't own a car. I know it probably better than anyone since I do the bulk of her transportation. Holidays are a rough time to transport them. I want their whole family to enjoy the holiday......as well as with us. That is 6 people to transport, plus food. (at xmas add in presents) In my saturn......well, I can't fit 3 adults and 3 children (two the size of adults) plus myself who has to do the driving. I have managed 5 by breaking a few laws and lots of complaints, which I don't much blame them for as they're pretty squished. I don't want biomom left out. Regardless of Katie's campaign to make me believe her mother has suddenly turned anti-social, I don't want the woman spending major holidays alone. It's not right. Nichole is bringing her smaller car as it's better on gas. She has to travel an hour each way, I don't blame her. So I sort of asked easy child if she would pick up katie's family. She has a vehicle that would seat them comfortably without potential damage being done to the food they're bringing to dinner tomorrow. I knew before I asked there would either be protest or excuses. There was. She wanted to know why Nichole wasn't doing so......phht. easy child said they wouldn't fit in her car due to the car seats. Well, gee, the girl drives half block up the frigging alley to my house. I think she could skip car seats for one or two holidays without disaster striking. Once again I will have to interrupt what I'm busy doing prepping the meal to go pick up Katie's family, attempt to fit both them and the food into the car.....not the least bit fun......without ruining their clothes because I'm requiring everyone to be dressed up for holidays. It interrupts my visiting. It throws off my schedule and tends to make the rest of the day chaotic for me. (brain thing) Irritates me. Nichole has transported them several times. Would it really be that big a deal for easy child to drop her family here and go pick them up? OMG She might have to be alone with her sister and family for 15 whole minutes. Let me whip out my violin. Then?? We have the "shocked" routine about dressing up for the holidays. Seriously? I'm not asking for tuxedo's people. Just for them to dress in their best. easy child was less than thrilled even though I have a suit here that should fit Darrin. What is so wrong with that? They grew up dressing up for the holidays. I even picked up nice tops / sweaters and khaki pants for Katie's boys. It's not just easy child but katie too. Oh, biomom has nothing to wear. Will pooh. I have a whole wardrobe that will fit the woman that I can't wear full of dress clothes that look like new for Pete's sake. I plan to let her go through them and "shop" in the future but wanted my mom to shop them first as she can't find a thing to fit her that looks nice and we have similar tastes. A PITA? Maybe. But guess what? It is for ME too. I've dropped at least 3 sizes. I've managed to pick up some nice tops but I'm still unsure of whether I own anything yet to wear with them that I consider dressy enough. We can't even seem to find Travis' winter wardrobe and so I have to look for it today and wash him something suitable to wear. This is on top of everything else I have to do today. Shoot me people. If it inconveniences you I just really don't want to hear it. Yet another petty thing?? easy child was upset over the menu and who was making what. Now yes, Nichole and I worked on it, but we also ran it past Katie and easy child to see if it was ok with them or they wanted to change it around as to who was making whatever or something else. That was a few weeks ago. A day or so ago easy child tells me she is upset because she got only "easy" things to make and we didn't choose her to make the sweet potato casserole. I explained to her that we'd tried to make it "easy" on everyone.....we do have 4 cooks, no reason for it to be hard on any of us. easy child was already doing a lot of baking because she's been selling pumpkin bread and pumpkin rolls and the like. So we figured she loves to bake and would be busy with it anyway so we gave her the baking except for the pies because Nichole wanted to try to do them this year. I wanted to come up with something easy for Katie to do that she could manage cost wise. She got the broccoli casserole and the sweet potatoes. I took the turkey, stuffing, gravy, and mashed potatoes because it's all done here anyway. So last minute katie doesn't want to do sweet potatoes cuz they're "hard". wtf? You open the can, dump it into a pan, add brown sugar, bring it to a boil, drain it, add a little butter, mash it, dump it into a casserole dish, layer with marshmallows and stick it into the oven and brown.......hard???? omg Yes, I know easy child wants to do the sweet potatoes from scratch, but that is beside the point. Katie is not to that point in her cooking skills yet and I wanted her contributing to this meal the same as everyone else. Katie wants to do the broccoli, which actually IS hard. *smacks forehead* So now, menu has been changed and I *think* all the traditional foods everyone is counting on eating will be served......and perhaps a few extra things I'm not even sure what they are thrown in because Katie wanted to make them. And now I dunno even how I'm going to manage to get Katie's whole family over to the house.