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<blockquote data-quote="gcvmom" data-source="post: 490543" data-attributes="member: 3444"><p>Step, since we're on winter break, I am getting them to follow through by hovering or just following up and then if they didn't do what they were supposed to, I hunt them down and insist that they stop whatever they're doing to go back and do what they were asked to do, even if it means interrupting something fun. Although I was surprised when difficult child 1 got his entire list done with me not home all day. THAT was quite remarkable. Granted, the Wii and the Gamecubes are all hidden away and he has very restricted computer access, so there wasn't much left for him TO do that afternoon! <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/winks.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":winks:" title="winks :winks:" data-shortname=":winks:" /></p><p></p><p>My other strategy is unabashed guilt. I am their MOTHER, I remind them. I have given them a HOME, LOVE, WARMTH, CARING, COMPASSION, have sacrificed MUCH and in return I expect their respect and cooperation. And yes, I've even cried in front of them when I've been beyond frustrated (like with the hole in the wall) -- and THAT really bothers them. I've told them that they don't have to LIKE me but they DO have to follow my rules. And they've tested me PLENTY of times to learn that my consequences aren't very pleasant if they choose to ignore my expectations. </p><p></p><p>So far, so good. I got difficult child 1 to assemble a storage cabinet for me today, difficult child 2 did a load of laundry, and easy child helped with dishes.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="gcvmom, post: 490543, member: 3444"] Step, since we're on winter break, I am getting them to follow through by hovering or just following up and then if they didn't do what they were supposed to, I hunt them down and insist that they stop whatever they're doing to go back and do what they were asked to do, even if it means interrupting something fun. Although I was surprised when difficult child 1 got his entire list done with me not home all day. THAT was quite remarkable. Granted, the Wii and the Gamecubes are all hidden away and he has very restricted computer access, so there wasn't much left for him TO do that afternoon! :winks: My other strategy is unabashed guilt. I am their MOTHER, I remind them. I have given them a HOME, LOVE, WARMTH, CARING, COMPASSION, have sacrificed MUCH and in return I expect their respect and cooperation. And yes, I've even cried in front of them when I've been beyond frustrated (like with the hole in the wall) -- and THAT really bothers them. I've told them that they don't have to LIKE me but they DO have to follow my rules. And they've tested me PLENTY of times to learn that my consequences aren't very pleasant if they choose to ignore my expectations. So far, so good. I got difficult child 1 to assemble a storage cabinet for me today, difficult child 2 did a load of laundry, and easy child helped with dishes. [/QUOTE]
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