I spoke with my sister M who has POA over my mother's affairs. She believes it is in all areas of mother's affairs not only financial, which is excellent *I think*.
I gathered all the information I had about the nursing home/assisted living facility near sister's house and I also told her that mom needs to see a gerontologist ASAP, that I would take vacation time to go to PA and help her get everything going and settled.
M is also afraid to go up against T (loco sister where mom is right now) and our other sister S, who is also resistent to mom going into a home. However, no one is willing to take mom in and the only ones of us who are work full time, so moving into our homes would not provide the 24 hour care that mom needs, you know?
Sister M agreed with me when I explained things to her from a safety and care aspect. I think the largest problem is that we've all been thinking with our hearts and not logically about mom's welfare long term. And that is why it's taken us till now to finally start talking about a facility. My conversation with sister S did not go well yesterday, as she's too emotional and she just wants to ship mom around throughout the year, but has already stated that she can only take mom 3 weeks at time!! That's not healthy for mom to be moving around so much. She needs continuity and stability. She needs a home, with care and safety. The place I am looking at sounds awesome, so I'm calling today to find out about wait lists, conditions of admission, costs covered by medicare and medicaid, etc. Wish me luck.
I am feeling better about rocking the boat with my family over this. I am so very concerned about mom's safety and having the peace of mind to know that she's being cared for properly. Thanks for all the strength you've given me!