Gosh I had hoped we found the answer. Tonight we had storms and I had the kids, my difficult child 15 from previous posts, and my easy child 12, turn off the computers. We left for an event and my difficult child called and said he needed the password to get back on. I said no, more storms were coming (tornados with hail had passed but severe thunderstorms were still coming-possibly powersurging our computers) so no computer. They had both been on for 1 1/2 hrs and that seemed enough anyway. I thought better of it and decided it was actually safer to have him happy while we were away than otherwise. Well as I called from the car (not 5 minutes away) my daughter said "come home please, he hit me 4 times because I wouldn't give him my password" Her password, for some reason, works for the internet but I didn't know that he knew that. I hadn't had a chance to change it before we left. It didn't seem so awful when we got there but she had locked herself in the bathroom and was afraid. We are thinking about having him pay for our tickets $50 to the event we had to miss due to him, but we're not sure. (He makes about $100 a week mowing). He did admit being in the wrong but that she exaggerated (he admitted shoving). I tried to be calm and even took my husband in the other room when he began using sarcasm to regroup. I said "You seemed to be a happy person not so long ago, why do you have so much anger? I feel we have bent over backwards for you and that you are not trying" He disagreed we had done very much "I don't have internet in my room!" (The psychiatrist recommended we stick to that even though I have spyware) "But you can see everyting I do" he said (due to spyware). I said I couldn't trust him to not get on at 2am. (Not to mention I have a life and don't want to spy on 3 computers). He teared up and left the room (not all bad) but when I opened his door for him to put his pet away he cursed at me. He did that last week too. We had made up a contract about no language, and a few others for him to have the privileges he thought we were restrictive to keep him from. Yesterday he posted some rap videos that use very bad language on his MYSPACE and he knows I won't like it. He invited all these rappers to be his "friends". I have told him MYSPACE is for 15-16 year old friends in the metroplex (after I found he was communicating with a 30 yr old in another state). I was rethinking that one when he posted them against my wishes anyway. I just feel like things are not working. The psychatrist said to give it 3-4 weeks for the Zoloft. Tonight I was reading Parent in Control and he recommends:"Get rid of your children's tapes and CDs of music supporting their negative peer cultures. If you won't protect your children against negative influences, who will?" Should we? I know the majority on this forum said no. We just feel like we are in the twilight zone. This time last year the only thing he was interested in was Weird Al, now he posts that if he can't "make it in music there's no point" or something to that effect and seems almost brainwashed by this stuff. I also feel he is getting good at using anger to get what he wants. I am seriously considering quitting our internet service to our home. That would solve his obsession with Rap artists but I think the lack of social would hit him very very hard. ANy thoughts, wise people?