timer lady
Queen of Hearts
Another wm plea! Another pathetic phone call with wm explaining to me why he is again on restriction & has lost every priviledge; why it wasn't fair he lost those priviledges & why we should put kt into foster care so he can come home.
"Even though you're making unsafe choices & not following the most basic rules, wm?"
"Yes, mom, it's not fair that kt gets to live at home. We both had to go to the hospital. We both had to go to Residential Treatment Center (RTC) & day treatment, but kt got to go home & I didn't."
"Why would that be, wm?"
"You love kt more than me!" , said in great anger.
"Not likely, wm. What's the real reason, wm? "
"I don't know, mom"
"Okay, wm, you think about it & get back to me."
"But mom, will you come out right now & visit me - I'm really bored."
Okay, I could have started this entire conversation all over again for as much impact as it was making on wm. We have this talk a couple of times a week & I'm done discussing it any further. kt could be in treatment right now & wm wouldn't be living here at home.
He really did blow all his priviledges (& that's not many at this point) by making some pretty poor choices or by not stopping & thinking, whatever the reason. wm is on a very short leash & he hates it.
wm also believes that kt has a much longer leash. In comparison to wm, yes; in comparison to the rest of her peers not so much. Constant supervision for both, however kt has earned certain things wm has not.
wm has been in therapy & has had other interventions since the age of 4. He charms the therapist (not his psychiatrist). She's convinced he's making huge progress - yeah, well, maybe in her office. He certainly talks the talk, cannot walk the walk outside of therapist's office. Foster mum & I finally communicated that with wm's therapist & I think therapist got the point.
(*Old line spoken by Norm in Cheers about his wife Vera edited for my use & very jaded sense of humor.)
"Even though you're making unsafe choices & not following the most basic rules, wm?"
"Yes, mom, it's not fair that kt gets to live at home. We both had to go to the hospital. We both had to go to Residential Treatment Center (RTC) & day treatment, but kt got to go home & I didn't."
"Why would that be, wm?"
"You love kt more than me!" , said in great anger.
"Not likely, wm. What's the real reason, wm? "
"I don't know, mom"
"Okay, wm, you think about it & get back to me."
"But mom, will you come out right now & visit me - I'm really bored."
Okay, I could have started this entire conversation all over again for as much impact as it was making on wm. We have this talk a couple of times a week & I'm done discussing it any further. kt could be in treatment right now & wm wouldn't be living here at home.
He really did blow all his priviledges (& that's not many at this point) by making some pretty poor choices or by not stopping & thinking, whatever the reason. wm is on a very short leash & he hates it.
wm also believes that kt has a much longer leash. In comparison to wm, yes; in comparison to the rest of her peers not so much. Constant supervision for both, however kt has earned certain things wm has not.
wm has been in therapy & has had other interventions since the age of 4. He charms the therapist (not his psychiatrist). She's convinced he's making huge progress - yeah, well, maybe in her office. He certainly talks the talk, cannot walk the walk outside of therapist's office. Foster mum & I finally communicated that with wm's therapist & I think therapist got the point.
wm, can't live with him, pass the beer nuts!*
(*Old line spoken by Norm in Cheers about his wife Vera edited for my use & very jaded sense of humor.)