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<blockquote data-quote="Ktllc" data-source="post: 565309" data-attributes="member: 11847"><p>You guys really confirmed what I felt in my bones. I do use punishment once in a while (usually a very disaproving tone and a quick tap on the bottom. But that probably is another debate!) but I have to say: both my boys are pretty well mannered, specially if you keep V's challenges in mind. Sweet Pea is learning all that at only 2, so it is another story and distraction and removing her from the situation are my main methods. </p><p>Yesterday, V snatched the last drinakble yogurt from Partner's hand and ran as fast as possible to put it in his backpack (snack for later). Partner protested that he had it first and I intervened telling V that it was not an appropriate behavior.</p><p>V claimed he had it first, I then told him that it was not true since I had witnessed the scene and I knew Partner had it in his hands.</p><p>V went into tantrum mode. And V shouted that he never got to have one of those yogurts for snack before and he really wanted it. Of course, he is jumping, screaming, crying all at once and quite abnoxious in his behavior. I focused on what he was saying and told him that the right thing to do was to tell Partner exactly what he told me and see if Partner would then give him the oh so precious yogurt! V is still shouting that Partner will say no and his anxiety is spiralling.</p><p>I repeated to him what was the right thing to do (crossing my fingers that Partner would say ok V can have it) but warning him that he might have to deal with a flat no from Partner. V proceeded as he became calmer and Partner said yes! Once V was completely calm I asked him to apologize to Partner for his first reaction. We then all moved on.</p><p>Yes, took a lot of work (patience!) but V went off to school on a good note and *hopefully* learned something along the way. Punishment would have accomplished nothing in this instance.</p><p>We se the therapist to night, I'll try to talk to him 1 on 1 at first.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Ktllc, post: 565309, member: 11847"] You guys really confirmed what I felt in my bones. I do use punishment once in a while (usually a very disaproving tone and a quick tap on the bottom. But that probably is another debate!) but I have to say: both my boys are pretty well mannered, specially if you keep V's challenges in mind. Sweet Pea is learning all that at only 2, so it is another story and distraction and removing her from the situation are my main methods. Yesterday, V snatched the last drinakble yogurt from Partner's hand and ran as fast as possible to put it in his backpack (snack for later). Partner protested that he had it first and I intervened telling V that it was not an appropriate behavior. V claimed he had it first, I then told him that it was not true since I had witnessed the scene and I knew Partner had it in his hands. V went into tantrum mode. And V shouted that he never got to have one of those yogurts for snack before and he really wanted it. Of course, he is jumping, screaming, crying all at once and quite abnoxious in his behavior. I focused on what he was saying and told him that the right thing to do was to tell Partner exactly what he told me and see if Partner would then give him the oh so precious yogurt! V is still shouting that Partner will say no and his anxiety is spiralling. I repeated to him what was the right thing to do (crossing my fingers that Partner would say ok V can have it) but warning him that he might have to deal with a flat no from Partner. V proceeded as he became calmer and Partner said yes! Once V was completely calm I asked him to apologize to Partner for his first reaction. We then all moved on. Yes, took a lot of work (patience!) but V went off to school on a good note and *hopefully* learned something along the way. Punishment would have accomplished nothing in this instance. We se the therapist to night, I'll try to talk to him 1 on 1 at first. [/QUOTE]
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