Hi. I am new to this site and wanted to tell you all a little about my family and I and get some feed back if you wouldn't mind. I have 2 sons Noah and Dakota. Noah is 8 years old and has ADHD and low self esteem. Dakota is 3 and has not been diagnosis yet as we have only went to 2 appointments but they are telling me either ADHD or CD or both. Dakota is SO MUCH harder than Noah EVER was. He is out right mean. He abuses the dog, he breaks all his toys etc. I cannot control him. That is so hard for me to admit. He is 3, it should not be like this. Noah takes 36mg of Concerta daily and is doing some better, but has a lot of mood swings. I am married but my husband don't help me very much as he is at work most of the time. I feel like I am a prisoner in my home because I don't go very many places because I cannot control my son. He throws fits and screams and has a total meltdown and it is so embarrasing and enraging at the same time. I believe I am getting very depressed as well. I don't have any family in the area nor does my husband so I don't get a babysitter easily or often. I just want to cry all the time and ask WHY? DID I DO SOMETHING TO CAUSE THIS BEHAVIOR? I feel like a very lousy parent with really good intentions. I have tried time outs, time ins, corners, naughty spots, no tv, bribes to be good (lol), and even a occasional swat to the behind(only REALLY bad offences and only about 1 time a year as I don't really believe in spanking). But nothing has worked. Dakota bounces off the walls, climbs, destroys things, by the time I clean 1 mess he has 3 more waiting. I need some advice. Please let me know of any parenting advice you have or ANYTHING. I am in very bad need to talk to SOMEONE. My marriage and family feels like it is falling apart and I don't know what to do.