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Marg's post was very thought provoking for me (as her posts usually are) and it got me to thinking about the friends I've had througout my lifetime. You know, I've been extremely blessed in that area. I've always had a couple of friends who would pick up the phone at midnight and get on a plane. But the handful always changes. As I've moved forward both in terms of location and spiritually, I've found myself gravitating to different friends. I wonder what that says about me, or about them or just about humanity.
I do know that I've not always been the best of friends myself. My issues with depression and life challenges have tended to cause me to isolate and practice periods of self pity. Also, one of my longtime bffs had to drop me a few years ago because she couldn't handle the choices I was making for myself. I married an alcoholic and did quite the dance with codependency and she just couldn't understand why I didn't get out. But I maintain I had to go through that to find the strength I have today.
I think it's important to honor friends of the past but try not to spend too much time there. Now is where it is at. Having said that, I'm reconnecting with a HS bff after 30 years! I'm not expecting us to pick back up but it will be nice to revisit old times and who knows, perhaps we can begin a recycled friendship? Facebook and the like are sure changing the dynamics of things in this area.
Interesting stuff. Thank you to KLMNO and everyone for starting and contributing to this thread.
Love,
ML
I do know that I've not always been the best of friends myself. My issues with depression and life challenges have tended to cause me to isolate and practice periods of self pity. Also, one of my longtime bffs had to drop me a few years ago because she couldn't handle the choices I was making for myself. I married an alcoholic and did quite the dance with codependency and she just couldn't understand why I didn't get out. But I maintain I had to go through that to find the strength I have today.
I think it's important to honor friends of the past but try not to spend too much time there. Now is where it is at. Having said that, I'm reconnecting with a HS bff after 30 years! I'm not expecting us to pick back up but it will be nice to revisit old times and who knows, perhaps we can begin a recycled friendship? Facebook and the like are sure changing the dynamics of things in this area.
Interesting stuff. Thank you to KLMNO and everyone for starting and contributing to this thread.
Love,
ML