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<blockquote data-quote="Andy" data-source="post: 231365" data-attributes="member: 5096"><p>What an awful thing to go through. You did a great job keeping calm and talking him through things. Other possibilities to coughing up blood or appearing to cough up blood; if for some reason his teeth/gums were bleeding or if he ate something red.</p><p> </p><p>I have felt your fear. As mom, you want to make sure your child is healthy and when there is some complaint, you want to know what is causing the pain. You know that there can be and often is an easy minor non-threatening explanation but your child's fear digs deep into you and touches your fear center. Your child has a way of transferring his fears to you. As you watch him agonize, you think, "Maybe there really is something wrong? He is in so much pain! Doctors can't seem to find out what it is."</p><p> </p><p>So, like many moms, you started out calm and cool. Then as difficult child's agony grew, he was able to transfer his fears to you. You are finding it more and more difficult to help him understand. "But mom, you don't know for sure. You don't know how I feel. I know I have something wrong with me. I know I am going to die." And you start to go into that fear world with him.</p><p> </p><p>Do you have a counselor? A doctor who can work with both of you to let you both know steps to take to get through these attacks? Hopefully a doctor who understands that tests do have to be done to rule things out because as things are ruled out, difficult child will feel a little better until he comes up with another medical pain and just because a kid has anxiety doesn't mean something else could be going on. I think your difficult child is in so deep that this will take a lot of hard work to come out of.</p><p> </p><p>Hugs hugs hugs to you all. Your heart falls to pieces when your child is experiencing this fear.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Andy, post: 231365, member: 5096"] What an awful thing to go through. You did a great job keeping calm and talking him through things. Other possibilities to coughing up blood or appearing to cough up blood; if for some reason his teeth/gums were bleeding or if he ate something red. I have felt your fear. As mom, you want to make sure your child is healthy and when there is some complaint, you want to know what is causing the pain. You know that there can be and often is an easy minor non-threatening explanation but your child's fear digs deep into you and touches your fear center. Your child has a way of transferring his fears to you. As you watch him agonize, you think, "Maybe there really is something wrong? He is in so much pain! Doctors can't seem to find out what it is." So, like many moms, you started out calm and cool. Then as difficult child's agony grew, he was able to transfer his fears to you. You are finding it more and more difficult to help him understand. "But mom, you don't know for sure. You don't know how I feel. I know I have something wrong with me. I know I am going to die." And you start to go into that fear world with him. Do you have a counselor? A doctor who can work with both of you to let you both know steps to take to get through these attacks? Hopefully a doctor who understands that tests do have to be done to rule things out because as things are ruled out, difficult child will feel a little better until he comes up with another medical pain and just because a kid has anxiety doesn't mean something else could be going on. I think your difficult child is in so deep that this will take a lot of hard work to come out of. Hugs hugs hugs to you all. Your heart falls to pieces when your child is experiencing this fear. [/QUOTE]
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