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<blockquote data-quote="buddy" data-source="post: 483308" data-attributes="member: 12886"><p>Well, since I just posted a situation that happened within the last hour, different story same issue, out of control then all of a sudden reasonable.... I just get sick of trying to figure it all out. I gave medications at 9 so not medication time. I think it was triggered by the sounds outside. He is just at all times lately, on low impulse control mode so as long as there is nothing triggering him he is fine. If something triggers him, there is sudden change. Whatever the reasons for the lessened impulse control/lack of a filter for appropriate words and actions... medications, seizures, Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD), growth still it is exhausting to go thru over and over. I got too relaxed.... had all day Friday great. Oh well.</p><p></p><p>It does sound like J has some impulse issues. Complicated by the fact that kids at 4 often take what they want even though they know the rules technically. It is the toddler/preschool property law. I see it, its mine. I had it before, its mine. You have it, but I want it, its mine. </p><p></p><p>I really dont think he is thinking he wants to stab you...when little guys say that (or developmentally disabled kids who are like little guys) I translate in my head... I am so mad at you right now and I dont like not getting my way. They are so flooded with feelings that they just say whatever shocking thing they can to let you know this is a big deal to them. And maybe just maybe you will give in...lol. You didn't sound like you felt afraid, but were just upset he chose those kinds of words, am I getting that right?</p><p></p><p>I actually think his agreeing to your limits was a huge deal. Good for him. That is a jewel of a skill. </p><p></p><p>Do you think in future, you can just do a time limit so you leave activities with a chance of leaving on a high. If you look at all the recent meltdowns, what is the longest he went without the beginnings of a spiral down? If you leave a gathering 15 minutes earlier than the shortest time, and just go home...no trips etc. maybe you can avoid this becomming a transition upset pattern. Just speaking from experience. Maybe it wont be an issue for him, but just fair warning that it could. </p><p></p><p>The party sounded fun by the way. Too bad the end was a little hairy.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="buddy, post: 483308, member: 12886"] Well, since I just posted a situation that happened within the last hour, different story same issue, out of control then all of a sudden reasonable.... I just get sick of trying to figure it all out. I gave medications at 9 so not medication time. I think it was triggered by the sounds outside. He is just at all times lately, on low impulse control mode so as long as there is nothing triggering him he is fine. If something triggers him, there is sudden change. Whatever the reasons for the lessened impulse control/lack of a filter for appropriate words and actions... medications, seizures, Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD), growth still it is exhausting to go thru over and over. I got too relaxed.... had all day Friday great. Oh well. It does sound like J has some impulse issues. Complicated by the fact that kids at 4 often take what they want even though they know the rules technically. It is the toddler/preschool property law. I see it, its mine. I had it before, its mine. You have it, but I want it, its mine. I really dont think he is thinking he wants to stab you...when little guys say that (or developmentally disabled kids who are like little guys) I translate in my head... I am so mad at you right now and I dont like not getting my way. They are so flooded with feelings that they just say whatever shocking thing they can to let you know this is a big deal to them. And maybe just maybe you will give in...lol. You didn't sound like you felt afraid, but were just upset he chose those kinds of words, am I getting that right? I actually think his agreeing to your limits was a huge deal. Good for him. That is a jewel of a skill. Do you think in future, you can just do a time limit so you leave activities with a chance of leaving on a high. If you look at all the recent meltdowns, what is the longest he went without the beginnings of a spiral down? If you leave a gathering 15 minutes earlier than the shortest time, and just go home...no trips etc. maybe you can avoid this becomming a transition upset pattern. Just speaking from experience. Maybe it wont be an issue for him, but just fair warning that it could. The party sounded fun by the way. Too bad the end was a little hairy. [/QUOTE]
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