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<blockquote data-quote="toughlovin" data-source="post: 687787" data-attributes="member: 15801"><p>OK an update. My son surprised me a bit yesterday and did send me a message saying "Happy Mothers Day for what it's worth". He then sent me a long message today saying he went to IOP had a long conversation with the two therapists about how he is feeling, issues with us etc. So they came.up with a plan that he will go one day less a week.... But will have two individual sessions one with each therapist a week. So in essence more individual work and less groups which given the amount of treatment he has had makes sense. And he will work on getting a job and will be going over what he is doing in that regard with them. And he did acknowledge that all that has happened to him is his own doing... And although eh still feels some resentment that all the things we have done have totally been with his best interest in mind. I did call and confirm all this with the IOP. So this is good and we will go from here.</p><p></p><p>I have done some reading about how "tough love" doesn't work. There is some controversy about this approach. It certainly works in some cases but not in all. So I have really been trying over the past many years to find the balance of supporting and loving my son but not totally enabling him either. It is often a very hard balance to find. I feel like the last few days I have been doing that balancing act fairly well. SEtting boundaries but still being there. So we shall see what happens from here.</p><p></p><p>TL</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="toughlovin, post: 687787, member: 15801"] OK an update. My son surprised me a bit yesterday and did send me a message saying "Happy Mothers Day for what it's worth". He then sent me a long message today saying he went to IOP had a long conversation with the two therapists about how he is feeling, issues with us etc. So they came.up with a plan that he will go one day less a week.... But will have two individual sessions one with each therapist a week. So in essence more individual work and less groups which given the amount of treatment he has had makes sense. And he will work on getting a job and will be going over what he is doing in that regard with them. And he did acknowledge that all that has happened to him is his own doing... And although eh still feels some resentment that all the things we have done have totally been with his best interest in mind. I did call and confirm all this with the IOP. So this is good and we will go from here. I have done some reading about how "tough love" doesn't work. There is some controversy about this approach. It certainly works in some cases but not in all. So I have really been trying over the past many years to find the balance of supporting and loving my son but not totally enabling him either. It is often a very hard balance to find. I feel like the last few days I have been doing that balancing act fairly well. SEtting boundaries but still being there. So we shall see what happens from here. TL [/QUOTE]
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