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<blockquote data-quote="gcvmom" data-source="post: 194093" data-attributes="member: 3444"><p>Thanks everyone <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> I KNOW difficult child 2's problems and behavior are NOT my fault. It's just that mother in law has a very insidious way of making these comments at a time when I am feeling vulnerable (being anxious about husband's problems doesn't help). She really hit a nerve, although I tried not to show it. </p><p> </p><p>I'm very glad she lives several states away. Ever since she slapped difficult child 2 earlier this year, I've been distancing myself from her and putting more of the responsibility for keeping in touch with her back on husband. It is HIS mother, afterall.</p><p> </p><p>I think what Marg said about the generational differences is true. She looks at kids as things to be controlled and bended to the will of the adult in charge. They don't have feelings that deserve consideration. And if they can't entertain or impress you, they really aren't worth your attention. My dad is very much from that generation, too, even though he's 10 years younger than mother in law. What's funny is that my mother, who is also 10 years mother in law's junior, has COMPLETELY different views on children and discipline and has a much, much better grasp of what I deal with on a day to day basis. While she's understandably sad that this is the hand that difficult child has been dealt, she doesn't think any less of him, or me for that matter. I don't know what I'd do without her!</p><p> </p><p>And I also see how this is sort of a competition with mother in law and her perceived parenting skills as Marg suggests. Never thought of it that way before, but you hit it right on the head! It's a way for her to lift herself up at my expense. In retrospect, she does that a lot to people, and it definitely explains the fierce competition that goes on between her daughters for her time and attention, and in their minds, her love. Very sad for them all.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="gcvmom, post: 194093, member: 3444"] Thanks everyone :) I KNOW difficult child 2's problems and behavior are NOT my fault. It's just that mother in law has a very insidious way of making these comments at a time when I am feeling vulnerable (being anxious about husband's problems doesn't help). She really hit a nerve, although I tried not to show it. I'm very glad she lives several states away. Ever since she slapped difficult child 2 earlier this year, I've been distancing myself from her and putting more of the responsibility for keeping in touch with her back on husband. It is HIS mother, afterall. I think what Marg said about the generational differences is true. She looks at kids as things to be controlled and bended to the will of the adult in charge. They don't have feelings that deserve consideration. And if they can't entertain or impress you, they really aren't worth your attention. My dad is very much from that generation, too, even though he's 10 years younger than mother in law. What's funny is that my mother, who is also 10 years mother in law's junior, has COMPLETELY different views on children and discipline and has a much, much better grasp of what I deal with on a day to day basis. While she's understandably sad that this is the hand that difficult child has been dealt, she doesn't think any less of him, or me for that matter. I don't know what I'd do without her! And I also see how this is sort of a competition with mother in law and her perceived parenting skills as Marg suggests. Never thought of it that way before, but you hit it right on the head! It's a way for her to lift herself up at my expense. In retrospect, she does that a lot to people, and it definitely explains the fierce competition that goes on between her daughters for her time and attention, and in their minds, her love. Very sad for them all. [/QUOTE]
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