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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 286808" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>I'm glad the staff are fussing over her. Talk to them about our thoughts, that way if tey notice her fainting episodes they will at least call someone, even if it's just a GP. Maybe a GP would be better - they could still order Dopplers.</p><p></p><p>I canunderstand her not wanting to prolong misery, but if something is an easy fix and pain/discomfort can be reduced easily, surely it is preferable? Again, a GP should be the one to explain this to her and to work with her to give her what she wants.</p><p></p><p>I mentioned the family member who had the mastectomy at 99 - she later broke her pelvis (at 101) and spent a week in hospital. Shwe ten went to a nursing home then came out of there back to her unit. She didn't like being in pain; a few months later she was in hospital again for a routine medication adjustment; I'm not sure what happened, I think at that point she said, "I've had a full, active and healthy life but now I'm in pain. So leave my medications alone, stop them all and just let me die."</p><p>My mother did the same thing a fortnight later - she was in hospital with pneumonia and was given the choice - fight the pneumonia with antibiotics, or let it take her. At first she fought and wanted to get well, then when told she would have to go back to the nursing home she hated, she said, "Stop my medications. let me die. it's my choice."</p><p>She'd always said that pneumonia was the way she wanted to go - "old man's friend", she called it. She knew it well.</p><p></p><p>So under some circumstances, fighting it is a good choice especially if it makes the patient more comfortable. But if it's gonibg to be uncomfortable and only produce minimal improvement, then the patient's wishes should be respected.</p><p></p><p>I hated losing my mother but I respected her decision. I was glad that her suffering was ending and that she had made her own choice in this. Not many of us get that opportunity.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 286808, member: 1991"] I'm glad the staff are fussing over her. Talk to them about our thoughts, that way if tey notice her fainting episodes they will at least call someone, even if it's just a GP. Maybe a GP would be better - they could still order Dopplers. I canunderstand her not wanting to prolong misery, but if something is an easy fix and pain/discomfort can be reduced easily, surely it is preferable? Again, a GP should be the one to explain this to her and to work with her to give her what she wants. I mentioned the family member who had the mastectomy at 99 - she later broke her pelvis (at 101) and spent a week in hospital. Shwe ten went to a nursing home then came out of there back to her unit. She didn't like being in pain; a few months later she was in hospital again for a routine medication adjustment; I'm not sure what happened, I think at that point she said, "I've had a full, active and healthy life but now I'm in pain. So leave my medications alone, stop them all and just let me die." My mother did the same thing a fortnight later - she was in hospital with pneumonia and was given the choice - fight the pneumonia with antibiotics, or let it take her. At first she fought and wanted to get well, then when told she would have to go back to the nursing home she hated, she said, "Stop my medications. let me die. it's my choice." She'd always said that pneumonia was the way she wanted to go - "old man's friend", she called it. She knew it well. So under some circumstances, fighting it is a good choice especially if it makes the patient more comfortable. But if it's gonibg to be uncomfortable and only produce minimal improvement, then the patient's wishes should be respected. I hated losing my mother but I respected her decision. I was glad that her suffering was ending and that she had made her own choice in this. Not many of us get that opportunity. Marg [/QUOTE]
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