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<blockquote data-quote="witzend" data-source="post: 153668" data-attributes="member: 99"><p>I understand your frustration. When I asked if he came and went as he pleased, I wasn't asking if he had your permission, but rather does he do it? When he was gone last week is that because the three of you came to an agreement that he would be elsewhere each of those days or is that just how it turned out?</p><p></p><p>The difficulty telling time excuse only goes so far, really. If he has a cell phone he could easily set an alarm on it telling him when to go home. If he has a disability that would make it difficult for him to carry out the actual setting of the repeating alarm, you could do it for him. But he's the one that is supposed to come home.</p><p></p><p>Perhaps you and your husband need to sit down together and be honest about what you would like to see from your difficult child that he is capable of doing and then present a united front to difficult child or tell him to find elsewhere to go. </p><p></p><p>He's being really awful to you, I know. And I know how easy it is to yell at them when they do that. He's probably counting on it that you <em>will</em> yell at him. That way you're the bad guy. It would probably be better if you set rules you can live with, then stick with them. It sounds an awful lot like his friends aren't going to let him go cold or hungry for a while. For now from here it looks like he's walking all over you guys.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="witzend, post: 153668, member: 99"] I understand your frustration. When I asked if he came and went as he pleased, I wasn't asking if he had your permission, but rather does he do it? When he was gone last week is that because the three of you came to an agreement that he would be elsewhere each of those days or is that just how it turned out? The difficulty telling time excuse only goes so far, really. If he has a cell phone he could easily set an alarm on it telling him when to go home. If he has a disability that would make it difficult for him to carry out the actual setting of the repeating alarm, you could do it for him. But he's the one that is supposed to come home. Perhaps you and your husband need to sit down together and be honest about what you would like to see from your difficult child that he is capable of doing and then present a united front to difficult child or tell him to find elsewhere to go. He's being really awful to you, I know. And I know how easy it is to yell at them when they do that. He's probably counting on it that you [I]will[/I] yell at him. That way you're the bad guy. It would probably be better if you set rules you can live with, then stick with them. It sounds an awful lot like his friends aren't going to let him go cold or hungry for a while. For now from here it looks like he's walking all over you guys. [/QUOTE]
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