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Motivating pot addicted 18yr old son to get & hold a job + care about future
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<blockquote data-quote="elizabrary" data-source="post: 750544" data-attributes="member: 11235"><p>Unfortunately nothing you do will make your son see the light and become a productive member of society. He is an adult now and has to travel his own path which sadly is not usually the path we would choose for our adult kids. You have to cut him off financially, not let him continue to use your vehicles and not let him use your house for anything. If he wants to stay in your house he must stay all the time and follow the rules you put forth. Let him know you are changing the locks and if he breaks in you will call the police. Remember that anything you tell him you will do you must follow through on. These kids will push and push to test limits, especially when you first start establishing boundaries. In my experience once you begin setting and maintaining boundaries these kids up the ante and behave even worse. My daughter went insane when I set and maintained boundaries. It was a real test for me to be able to hold my bottom line. That was years ago and she is better now but I take it day by day. I know it's incredibly difficult when you first set boundaries but it is best for everyone. You're going to have to learn to turn your focus where it belongs- to yourself. Sending you peace.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="elizabrary, post: 750544, member: 11235"] Unfortunately nothing you do will make your son see the light and become a productive member of society. He is an adult now and has to travel his own path which sadly is not usually the path we would choose for our adult kids. You have to cut him off financially, not let him continue to use your vehicles and not let him use your house for anything. If he wants to stay in your house he must stay all the time and follow the rules you put forth. Let him know you are changing the locks and if he breaks in you will call the police. Remember that anything you tell him you will do you must follow through on. These kids will push and push to test limits, especially when you first start establishing boundaries. In my experience once you begin setting and maintaining boundaries these kids up the ante and behave even worse. My daughter went insane when I set and maintained boundaries. It was a real test for me to be able to hold my bottom line. That was years ago and she is better now but I take it day by day. I know it's incredibly difficult when you first set boundaries but it is best for everyone. You're going to have to learn to turn your focus where it belongs- to yourself. Sending you peace. [/QUOTE]
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