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Motivation - how do they get it if they don't already have it?
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<blockquote data-quote="Josie" data-source="post: 418374" data-attributes="member: 1792"><p>I agree with testing him just to see if anything is going on.</p><p></p><p>You could also try supplying him some motivation for doing well. TV, computer, cash bonus, etc.</p><p></p><p>My daughter is bright and never had to do much to get good grades at school. I thought if she got a bad grade, she would be motivated to do better the next time. However, in 6th Grade, she just didn't do a lot of her homework and ended up with a 77 on her report card, instead of the 97 she could have easily had. She thought that was just fine and didn't see the point of doing the homework.</p><p></p><p>Since she has defiant tendencies, we decided to give a "bonus" for good grades instead of coming down hard and removing all of her privileges, We said she had to get all A's or no bonus. Any A+'s got even more money. We made the bonus high enough that she was interested in getting it. For her, getting all A's only meant she needed to turn in her work. The next year, she struggled more in a class but actually did try to work on it at home, so we paid for a B. We were incentivizing the work, not really the grades, if that makes sense.</p><p></p><p>To my surprise, once she got into high school, she is motivated to get good grades without being paid since they will count for college. We were still prepared to pay every quarter, but she somehow thinks only the semester grade counts. She had some B's for the quarter, but she makes sure she gets an A for the semester.</p><p></p><p>I didn't really want to pay for grades, but I came to accept it as a real world motivation. husband is motivated to work hard so he can keep his job and gets a bonus if he and/or his company does really well.</p><p></p><p>It worked for my daughter, but I can see how it wouldn't work, if there was an underlying problem. So testing is also a good idea.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Josie, post: 418374, member: 1792"] I agree with testing him just to see if anything is going on. You could also try supplying him some motivation for doing well. TV, computer, cash bonus, etc. My daughter is bright and never had to do much to get good grades at school. I thought if she got a bad grade, she would be motivated to do better the next time. However, in 6th Grade, she just didn't do a lot of her homework and ended up with a 77 on her report card, instead of the 97 she could have easily had. She thought that was just fine and didn't see the point of doing the homework. Since she has defiant tendencies, we decided to give a "bonus" for good grades instead of coming down hard and removing all of her privileges, We said she had to get all A's or no bonus. Any A+'s got even more money. We made the bonus high enough that she was interested in getting it. For her, getting all A's only meant she needed to turn in her work. The next year, she struggled more in a class but actually did try to work on it at home, so we paid for a B. We were incentivizing the work, not really the grades, if that makes sense. To my surprise, once she got into high school, she is motivated to get good grades without being paid since they will count for college. We were still prepared to pay every quarter, but she somehow thinks only the semester grade counts. She had some B's for the quarter, but she makes sure she gets an A for the semester. I didn't really want to pay for grades, but I came to accept it as a real world motivation. husband is motivated to work hard so he can keep his job and gets a bonus if he and/or his company does really well. It worked for my daughter, but I can see how it wouldn't work, if there was an underlying problem. So testing is also a good idea. [/QUOTE]
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