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Motivation - how do they get it if they don't already have it?
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<blockquote data-quote="DaisyFace" data-source="post: 418523" data-attributes="member: 6546"><p>Jules--</p><p> </p><p>First - I thought the letter you shared was very interesting. Good observations.</p><p> </p><p>Second - I recently saw a special in which they discussed evidence that seems to indicate that intrinsic motivation springs from successful relationships. A child is motivated because he has some sense of attachment to the adults in his life. IOW - a child is (or usually should be) naturally motivated to please his parents. A student is naturally motivated to please his teacher. </p><p> </p><p>We know all too well on this board that many of our difficult children struggle with relationships and attachment issues. They also seem to struggle with motivation. They do not see the point in putting forth any effort because they do not see the *value* of pleasing others. </p><p> </p><p>So the very fact that your child lacks motivation is itself an indicator of "GFGness".</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DaisyFace, post: 418523, member: 6546"] Jules-- First - I thought the letter you shared was very interesting. Good observations. Second - I recently saw a special in which they discussed evidence that seems to indicate that intrinsic motivation springs from successful relationships. A child is motivated because he has some sense of attachment to the adults in his life. IOW - a child is (or usually should be) naturally motivated to please his parents. A student is naturally motivated to please his teacher. We know all too well on this board that many of our difficult children struggle with relationships and attachment issues. They also seem to struggle with motivation. They do not see the point in putting forth any effort because they do not see the *value* of pleasing others. So the very fact that your child lacks motivation is itself an indicator of "GFGness". [/QUOTE]
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