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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 364370" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>There does seem to be something not working right. Most kids are happy to get into "their" door in the car. Part of it is the "I do it myself" and part is that they get into the car so often that it is routine, even if they spent several years with you putting them into the car. </p><p></p><p>I could see many kids getting confused in the buggy. That does sound a bit confusing for many kids who are not allowed to eat/drink in the car. My niece wasn't allowed to have a drink in the car for a long time so if they were doing something where they were moving she couldn't handle getting a drink from a water bottle unless they stopped. After just a couple of tries it was no longer a problem.</p><p></p><p>Taking plates to you all the time seems VERY Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) to me. sort of along the lines of Marg's son getting an ice cream on the way home from the beach and liking it so much that for years he expected an ice cream after the beach even though they went to the beach a lot and didn't get the ice cream a lot. It may be that it is just a routine or it may be that he really cannot figure out what to do with the plate.</p><p></p><p>Instead of telling him you are not a table and where to take his plate, what would happen if you asked him what he should do with the plate? Would he be able to figure it out a few times and then stop bringing it to you? Or would it add a lot of frustration and stress because he simply isn't able to think it through and would either assume he is "dumb" or something else unhelpful and maybe even lead to more meltdowns?</p><p></p><p>I seem to remember him using picture schedules at one point. Why not make a "plan" that shows a boy eating then shows the boy putting the plates where they go. If you put a step about scraping the plate off maybe you could show the boy putting the plate in the dishwasher instead of just on the counter? It seems that whatever he learns may stick with him for a LONG time, so really think about what you will want him to do in 5 or 6 years. Adding the steps NOW may not be the easiest now, but they may be the most effective and easiest in the long run. Before he gets his food each time, go over what he will do when he is done eating. You may have to say it before every meal and snack for a while, but it would probably be the best way to make a long term change.</p><p></p><p>I do NOT think your expectations are out of line for kids his age. thank you made his own lunch in kindergarten. He refused to eat it if anyone else packed it. Never did know why, but we kept stuff he could pack easily in a certain spot. If they were not there, or we were out of something, he was perfectly capable of finding something else. NOT always what I had in mind, but he figured it out. Most kids can pour if the jug isn't too full, esp by age 8.</p><p></p><p>I don't know if it is motor planning, expectations, not having any desire to do things himself, or something else. But it does sound like something is not quite working the way it should. The reins are esp telling in a child who has grown up around horses. I really do not think it is lack of desire for independence even though the outcome may seem that way. Not sure I have a concrete reason for that, it just feels like something else is the problem.</p><p></p><p>Start keeping your eye on this. Make a list of all the various things this seems to impact. Then see what the doctor in Tulsa says, and what an Occupational Therapist (OT) says about it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 364370, member: 1233"] There does seem to be something not working right. Most kids are happy to get into "their" door in the car. Part of it is the "I do it myself" and part is that they get into the car so often that it is routine, even if they spent several years with you putting them into the car. I could see many kids getting confused in the buggy. That does sound a bit confusing for many kids who are not allowed to eat/drink in the car. My niece wasn't allowed to have a drink in the car for a long time so if they were doing something where they were moving she couldn't handle getting a drink from a water bottle unless they stopped. After just a couple of tries it was no longer a problem. Taking plates to you all the time seems VERY Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) to me. sort of along the lines of Marg's son getting an ice cream on the way home from the beach and liking it so much that for years he expected an ice cream after the beach even though they went to the beach a lot and didn't get the ice cream a lot. It may be that it is just a routine or it may be that he really cannot figure out what to do with the plate. Instead of telling him you are not a table and where to take his plate, what would happen if you asked him what he should do with the plate? Would he be able to figure it out a few times and then stop bringing it to you? Or would it add a lot of frustration and stress because he simply isn't able to think it through and would either assume he is "dumb" or something else unhelpful and maybe even lead to more meltdowns? I seem to remember him using picture schedules at one point. Why not make a "plan" that shows a boy eating then shows the boy putting the plates where they go. If you put a step about scraping the plate off maybe you could show the boy putting the plate in the dishwasher instead of just on the counter? It seems that whatever he learns may stick with him for a LONG time, so really think about what you will want him to do in 5 or 6 years. Adding the steps NOW may not be the easiest now, but they may be the most effective and easiest in the long run. Before he gets his food each time, go over what he will do when he is done eating. You may have to say it before every meal and snack for a while, but it would probably be the best way to make a long term change. I do NOT think your expectations are out of line for kids his age. thank you made his own lunch in kindergarten. He refused to eat it if anyone else packed it. Never did know why, but we kept stuff he could pack easily in a certain spot. If they were not there, or we were out of something, he was perfectly capable of finding something else. NOT always what I had in mind, but he figured it out. Most kids can pour if the jug isn't too full, esp by age 8. I don't know if it is motor planning, expectations, not having any desire to do things himself, or something else. But it does sound like something is not quite working the way it should. The reins are esp telling in a child who has grown up around horses. I really do not think it is lack of desire for independence even though the outcome may seem that way. Not sure I have a concrete reason for that, it just feels like something else is the problem. Start keeping your eye on this. Make a list of all the various things this seems to impact. Then see what the doctor in Tulsa says, and what an Occupational Therapist (OT) says about it. [/QUOTE]
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