Was reading Stang's thread about her child in jail as his class graduates and didn't want to hijack. But lately I've been doing some mourning in relation to these normal "milestone" times. My daughter's class graduated last year (she was in and out of jail, tx, etc.), but a lot of her friends were younger, and are graduating this year. My daughter worked on her GED in jail and in treatment, but never really put much into it and never completed it. It's really hitting home for me lately, seeing all these kids going to prom, graduating, and moving on to college. I have this horrid happy-envy that I'm battling with. As moms complain about their kid's dresses and graduation-party drama, I'm wanting to scream at the top of my lungs, I WISH I HAD THAT PROBLEM TO DEAL WITH!!! But I don't, of coarse. And then I torture myself by looking at her friend's facebooks and reading their status updates (I am friends with a few of them), about their parties and joys. And I am happy for them. I'm just so devastatingly sad that my own child brings me so little joy, and that I've missed out on basically any enjoyment with her in the past few years. I feel so cheated at times when it comes to her. I know it isn't healthy to be co-dependently tied to someone else to make you happy, and I'm not - I'm working on that detachment and balance. Has this been hard for you? I have good days and bad, but it's especially hard right now, with it going on all around me.