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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 757528" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Dear Beta: Nobody is all good or all bad. We have the choice to respond to our own failings with compassion, and the choice to rise above. And we could and should I would argue aspire to do the same for others. Every single time when you calm down, and the hurt recedes, you find that higher part of yourself, and you find compassion for Josh. Josh is a mixed bag. You are too. I am too. Our illusions of who are children are or could be cause us untold pain, because we have no control. We can't reach into their brain to propel them to choose well. But what we can do is center ourselves in our own heart, where we do have control</p><p></p><p>I don't admire your reactivity, just as I don't admire my own. What I do admire is how you choose over and over again to respond to Josh based upon love, responsibility, heart and openness. No matter how he has hurt you, you rise above. </p><p></p><p>I am not saying that having Josh up close and personal is the best thing for either him or you. What I am trying to say here is that you are inspired to be the best Beta, the best mother that you can be. You keep returning to this place. And this is what I admire.</p><p></p><p>Please Beta, don't be so hard on you for your humanity and vulnerability and hope.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 757528, member: 18958"] Dear Beta: Nobody is all good or all bad. We have the choice to respond to our own failings with compassion, and the choice to rise above. And we could and should I would argue aspire to do the same for others. Every single time when you calm down, and the hurt recedes, you find that higher part of yourself, and you find compassion for Josh. Josh is a mixed bag. You are too. I am too. Our illusions of who are children are or could be cause us untold pain, because we have no control. We can't reach into their brain to propel them to choose well. But what we can do is center ourselves in our own heart, where we do have control I don't admire your reactivity, just as I don't admire my own. What I do admire is how you choose over and over again to respond to Josh based upon love, responsibility, heart and openness. No matter how he has hurt you, you rise above. I am not saying that having Josh up close and personal is the best thing for either him or you. What I am trying to say here is that you are inspired to be the best Beta, the best mother that you can be. You keep returning to this place. And this is what I admire. Please Beta, don't be so hard on you for your humanity and vulnerability and hope. [/QUOTE]
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