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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 431015" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>You are going to have to catch this, both her actions and yours, on video to get through to this woman. She clearly ahs no clue as to what life is like with a difficult child. Esp after all the various parenting classes many of us have had. Heck, Wiz once beat me to the ground because I asked him how his day was. That normal, everyday way that you ask, not something unusual or anything. Just "How was yoru day?" and he leaped on me, wrestled me to the floor and hit and kicked me. But the therapist, cops, psychiatrist all asked what I did to enrage him - did I say he had doen soemthing wrong? Had I searched his room or backpack that week, anything? No one but the judge believed it was unprovoked and he wouldn't do anything - just said he believed it but since the officer did not write up the report he wouldn't do anything. This was when I decided that the very next time would be the very last time and he would leave our home because I just couldn't take it and wouldn't subject the kids to it any more. husband didn't even really believe me - he wasn't home yet and just figured I had egged Wiz on. Wiz taunted me with the fact that no one would believe me no matter WHAT he did - it would be all my fault anyway for making him mad.</p><p></p><p>I would try giving her a chore, a way to work off the angry energy. Scrubbing the tub with baking soda or comet is a good way to work out anger, as is floor scrubbing. Or have her hose down the windows outside (YOU make sure they are all closed!) either just with water or with that windex stuff you hookup to the hose. Or have her dig up a garden or pull weeds. We did this for a logn time with Wiz. You will need to get her started and to supervise. Part of Wiz' turnaround was that my dad would take him out to trim hedges and clear the brush from their yard when he was in trouble or blowing up. Even just have her dig a hole, then fill it in and dig another. I know a family who had their son dig over a dozen holes all over five feet deep and then fill them in. They put trees in some, others just got dug up and filled in. It works off the energy and wears them out so they cannot rave so much and then they are less liekly to go off because they know they will be forced itno doing that. Or that is the idea. It took over a year with Wiz, and my parents house had truly NEVER looked better.</p><p></p><p>You NEED to invest in a cctv system or at the least a nannycam and get this on video. It will be the ONLY way that anyone who can help ever believes you. It is also often truly shocking to them, so they are then willing to give more than they therwise would ever consider. Or that is what we have experienced. You can get some cheap handheld video cameras, like the flip style ones, on <a href="http://www.bensoutlet.com" target="_blank">www.bensoutlet.com</a> . Nothing fancy and nothing hidden, but something you can grab to film her at her worst. They have one by creative labs with 4 gb and 2 batteries for about $35 and 8 gb and 2 batteries for about $45 - both are pllus shipping. Big Lots also often has them relatively cheap if you don t' go for a cctv system or nannycam.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 431015, member: 1233"] You are going to have to catch this, both her actions and yours, on video to get through to this woman. She clearly ahs no clue as to what life is like with a difficult child. Esp after all the various parenting classes many of us have had. Heck, Wiz once beat me to the ground because I asked him how his day was. That normal, everyday way that you ask, not something unusual or anything. Just "How was yoru day?" and he leaped on me, wrestled me to the floor and hit and kicked me. But the therapist, cops, psychiatrist all asked what I did to enrage him - did I say he had doen soemthing wrong? Had I searched his room or backpack that week, anything? No one but the judge believed it was unprovoked and he wouldn't do anything - just said he believed it but since the officer did not write up the report he wouldn't do anything. This was when I decided that the very next time would be the very last time and he would leave our home because I just couldn't take it and wouldn't subject the kids to it any more. husband didn't even really believe me - he wasn't home yet and just figured I had egged Wiz on. Wiz taunted me with the fact that no one would believe me no matter WHAT he did - it would be all my fault anyway for making him mad. I would try giving her a chore, a way to work off the angry energy. Scrubbing the tub with baking soda or comet is a good way to work out anger, as is floor scrubbing. Or have her hose down the windows outside (YOU make sure they are all closed!) either just with water or with that windex stuff you hookup to the hose. Or have her dig up a garden or pull weeds. We did this for a logn time with Wiz. You will need to get her started and to supervise. Part of Wiz' turnaround was that my dad would take him out to trim hedges and clear the brush from their yard when he was in trouble or blowing up. Even just have her dig a hole, then fill it in and dig another. I know a family who had their son dig over a dozen holes all over five feet deep and then fill them in. They put trees in some, others just got dug up and filled in. It works off the energy and wears them out so they cannot rave so much and then they are less liekly to go off because they know they will be forced itno doing that. Or that is the idea. It took over a year with Wiz, and my parents house had truly NEVER looked better. You NEED to invest in a cctv system or at the least a nannycam and get this on video. It will be the ONLY way that anyone who can help ever believes you. It is also often truly shocking to them, so they are then willing to give more than they therwise would ever consider. Or that is what we have experienced. You can get some cheap handheld video cameras, like the flip style ones, on [url]www.bensoutlet.com[/url] . Nothing fancy and nothing hidden, but something you can grab to film her at her worst. They have one by creative labs with 4 gb and 2 batteries for about $35 and 8 gb and 2 batteries for about $45 - both are pllus shipping. Big Lots also often has them relatively cheap if you don t' go for a cctv system or nannycam. [/QUOTE]
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