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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 431027" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>a;phabet lady, I know what you mean. chances are they don't know how to help, but it will maybe get them to look for something. I just think sometimes you must go to great lengths to jump through their hoops because otherwise they won't ever do anything helpful. For us, several times Wiz was very very dangerous to Jess, me or himself and with-o a TON of in your face proof no one ever helped. TOO many people just think we are over reacting to "normal" things because there are so many parents who either cannot or will not do even basic discipline with a child. SOOOOOO many parents want to be friends with their kids rather than parents and don;t want to insist on anything that upsets the child. Then these contracts, etc... DO work because the problem is the parent. So when WE parents of difficult child go and say what is going on, the docs all think it is NOT because nothing has worked it is because we have done nothing to discipline the child and don't know how to do it.</p><p></p><p>Video can jump you past that **** a lot faster than going through all of the various things that don't work over and over. I saw one therapist actually cry and wince at video of Wiz attacking - she said it was a flat out miracle that we hadn't beaten him to death to get him to stop hurting others. Just to get him OFF, I mean, not to discipline or punish him. She said she would have lost it if her hcild had acted that way, and would have lashed out at him. My comment was what would that fix? It would just make him madder and more violent. </p><p></p><p>There are so many parents who don't want to enforce rules or make a child unhappy so those of us who are good parents to our kids but have difficult children anyway have a long, uphill fight. If video shortens it, I am all for it!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 431027, member: 1233"] a;phabet lady, I know what you mean. chances are they don't know how to help, but it will maybe get them to look for something. I just think sometimes you must go to great lengths to jump through their hoops because otherwise they won't ever do anything helpful. For us, several times Wiz was very very dangerous to Jess, me or himself and with-o a TON of in your face proof no one ever helped. TOO many people just think we are over reacting to "normal" things because there are so many parents who either cannot or will not do even basic discipline with a child. SOOOOOO many parents want to be friends with their kids rather than parents and don;t want to insist on anything that upsets the child. Then these contracts, etc... DO work because the problem is the parent. So when WE parents of difficult child go and say what is going on, the docs all think it is NOT because nothing has worked it is because we have done nothing to discipline the child and don't know how to do it. Video can jump you past that **** a lot faster than going through all of the various things that don't work over and over. I saw one therapist actually cry and wince at video of Wiz attacking - she said it was a flat out miracle that we hadn't beaten him to death to get him to stop hurting others. Just to get him OFF, I mean, not to discipline or punish him. She said she would have lost it if her hcild had acted that way, and would have lashed out at him. My comment was what would that fix? It would just make him madder and more violent. There are so many parents who don't want to enforce rules or make a child unhappy so those of us who are good parents to our kids but have difficult children anyway have a long, uphill fight. If video shortens it, I am all for it! [/QUOTE]
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