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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 431082" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>From klmno - </p><p></p><p>The reason we go to these lengths, even if we feel the effort will not be valued - it's because there are people to come after us. SOMEONE has to educate these people. They have generally been put in the job they have, to learn. They have some academic expertise, but need to see real practice. And while ever we walk away from the problem, they will continue to believe (wrongly) that the intervention failed because the family would not follow through.</p><p></p><p>They NEED to have their eyes opened. And you can't argue with video.</p><p></p><p>DF, your description of Ms Ally wanting you to begin using techniques that are already in place, reminds me of the time I was in hospital for physical rehab. They had me walking on a treadmill every second day, in between I was to walk a certain number of lengths of the corridor. They asked me how far I walked in an average day and because I already used a step counter, I knew exactly. They then halved that and said, "Let's start you off gently."</p><p>Over the three weeks I was in hospital, I was NOT ALLOWED to walk more than a certain amount, and they graded it up over the three weeks to the point where it matched what I came in with. They then declared the whole program to be a success, they had successfully upgraded my walking. I was not impressed, I pointed out to my specialist (in writing, as usual) that my starting point should have been my entry point, not some artificially lowered level in order to guarantee non-progress as success.</p><p></p><p>I think you're dealing with the same sort of crud - you've already moved beyond where Ms Ally is at, but she can't grasp this because until now in her experience, and the experience of her entire department, it is generally bad parenting as well as parents who are less than honest about how much they do. </p><p></p><p>We need to SHOW them that sometimes the problem is far more complex than they believe, and that we need their help, even if it is only as one other person, not a family member, looking on and thinking outside the box.</p><p></p><p>If it was as easy as they expect it to be, why would we need them?</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 431082, member: 1991"] From klmno - The reason we go to these lengths, even if we feel the effort will not be valued - it's because there are people to come after us. SOMEONE has to educate these people. They have generally been put in the job they have, to learn. They have some academic expertise, but need to see real practice. And while ever we walk away from the problem, they will continue to believe (wrongly) that the intervention failed because the family would not follow through. They NEED to have their eyes opened. And you can't argue with video. DF, your description of Ms Ally wanting you to begin using techniques that are already in place, reminds me of the time I was in hospital for physical rehab. They had me walking on a treadmill every second day, in between I was to walk a certain number of lengths of the corridor. They asked me how far I walked in an average day and because I already used a step counter, I knew exactly. They then halved that and said, "Let's start you off gently." Over the three weeks I was in hospital, I was NOT ALLOWED to walk more than a certain amount, and they graded it up over the three weeks to the point where it matched what I came in with. They then declared the whole program to be a success, they had successfully upgraded my walking. I was not impressed, I pointed out to my specialist (in writing, as usual) that my starting point should have been my entry point, not some artificially lowered level in order to guarantee non-progress as success. I think you're dealing with the same sort of crud - you've already moved beyond where Ms Ally is at, but she can't grasp this because until now in her experience, and the experience of her entire department, it is generally bad parenting as well as parents who are less than honest about how much they do. We need to SHOW them that sometimes the problem is far more complex than they believe, and that we need their help, even if it is only as one other person, not a family member, looking on and thinking outside the box. If it was as easy as they expect it to be, why would we need them? Marg [/QUOTE]
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