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Musing Aloud: Can a truce be called? Can you reach out to your child with-in your difficult child?
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<blockquote data-quote="toughlovin" data-source="post: 475563"><p>This is my take..... he is acting "normal" in that his girlfriend and his plans are more important than his parents at this point in his life.... I think it is very hard when we have a kid we are so worried about that we think about them all the time and they don't even think about us or our feelings... and yet that part is pretty normal for the age. Its part of the separation and that part hurts.... even for parents of healthy teens off to college.</p><p></p><p>So to me there is some good news in the visit. He came to see you and spent some time hanging out with you. The fact that he would rather see his girlfriend (and probably have sex) makes a lot of sense to me given his age. He probably knows you don't really approve of him doing that and so he is not going to talk to you about it. The fact that he was planning on coming by on Sunday (even though he didn't) shows that he does care about you.</p><p></p><p>So thats the good news.</p><p></p><p>Your worry about his drug use is probably true and I can totally understand your worry. Completely. The fact thought that he can carry on like normal and keep a lid on his temper and behave himself when with you is a good sign. A drug addict who is pretty far into it cannot really do that very successfully. That however doesn't speak to the dealing part... if he is dealing drugs then he could be in for a whole heap of trouble and that would worry me too.</p><p></p><p>Hugs,</p><p></p><p>TL</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="toughlovin, post: 475563"] This is my take..... he is acting "normal" in that his girlfriend and his plans are more important than his parents at this point in his life.... I think it is very hard when we have a kid we are so worried about that we think about them all the time and they don't even think about us or our feelings... and yet that part is pretty normal for the age. Its part of the separation and that part hurts.... even for parents of healthy teens off to college. So to me there is some good news in the visit. He came to see you and spent some time hanging out with you. The fact that he would rather see his girlfriend (and probably have sex) makes a lot of sense to me given his age. He probably knows you don't really approve of him doing that and so he is not going to talk to you about it. The fact that he was planning on coming by on Sunday (even though he didn't) shows that he does care about you. So thats the good news. Your worry about his drug use is probably true and I can totally understand your worry. Completely. The fact thought that he can carry on like normal and keep a lid on his temper and behave himself when with you is a good sign. A drug addict who is pretty far into it cannot really do that very successfully. That however doesn't speak to the dealing part... if he is dealing drugs then he could be in for a whole heap of trouble and that would worry me too. Hugs, TL [/QUOTE]
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