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<blockquote data-quote="OpenWindow" data-source="post: 175843" data-attributes="member: 45"><p>When my mom was diagnosed with cancer, she was living in a boarding home two hours away (she was schizophrenic). I found an assisted living facility closer to us, and set up a room for her to stay with us on the weekends. It worked out well for us because taking the kids to visit her usually was a nightmare, and we were never able to stay long. She didn't come every weekend, but it was enough that we got to spend more time with her, she got to know the grandkids, and then we could send her back home on Sunday nights and it wouldn't interfere with the school/work week. I also tried to visit her once during the week.</p><p></p><p>But the others are right, if she is unhappy wherever she is, it may not change things. My Grandma was like that. She was in St. Louis and complained to my aunt in Florida all the time about noone coming to visit (not true!) and being all alone, and not ever getting to know my aunt's kids and grandkids. My aunt moved her to her house in Florida and she complained to family in St. Louis about arguing with our aunt all the time, and not being able to see her friends like she did in St. Louis at the retirement community, and having little kids running around all the time. My aunt moved into a nursing home, and Grandma complained about noone visiting (not true!), arguing with my aunt all the time, and missing her St. Louis friends and family.</p><p></p><p>She was just never going to be happy. My aunt doesn't regret moving her to Florida, even though it seemed so bad at the time, because she got to spend the last years with her and Grandma got to know the kids and grandkids, and they were able to know her.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="OpenWindow, post: 175843, member: 45"] When my mom was diagnosed with cancer, she was living in a boarding home two hours away (she was schizophrenic). I found an assisted living facility closer to us, and set up a room for her to stay with us on the weekends. It worked out well for us because taking the kids to visit her usually was a nightmare, and we were never able to stay long. She didn't come every weekend, but it was enough that we got to spend more time with her, she got to know the grandkids, and then we could send her back home on Sunday nights and it wouldn't interfere with the school/work week. I also tried to visit her once during the week. But the others are right, if she is unhappy wherever she is, it may not change things. My Grandma was like that. She was in St. Louis and complained to my aunt in Florida all the time about noone coming to visit (not true!) and being all alone, and not ever getting to know my aunt's kids and grandkids. My aunt moved her to her house in Florida and she complained to family in St. Louis about arguing with our aunt all the time, and not being able to see her friends like she did in St. Louis at the retirement community, and having little kids running around all the time. My aunt moved into a nursing home, and Grandma complained about noone visiting (not true!), arguing with my aunt all the time, and missing her St. Louis friends and family. She was just never going to be happy. My aunt doesn't regret moving her to Florida, even though it seemed so bad at the time, because she got to spend the last years with her and Grandma got to know the kids and grandkids, and they were able to know her. [/QUOTE]
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