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<blockquote data-quote="AnnieO" data-source="post: 297260" data-attributes="member: 6705"><p>Heather... First of all before anything else - [[[[[[[[[[HUGS]]]]]]]]]]</p><p> </p><p>I'm glad you have your online friend. Sure, now you know what is missing. But something maybe you didn't know - and that is, regardless of anything else, you have made a difference. In my life. In others' lives. Some of the things you have been through with difficult child make a big impact on the way I think about the things Onyxx does. And says.</p><p> </p><p>When I was 14 - My parents had ruined my life. I hated them. They had made me the way I was and it was their fault I had so many issues.</p><p> </p><p>I'm now 36 and - guess what...? My parents helped to make me the way I am. They are some of my best friends. They "ruined" my life so that I didn't put up with my ex in a loveless marriage and found husband instead. They ruined my ability to settle for less than the best.</p><p> </p><p>Yes, the perception sticks. But it slowly changes as the child grows. My parents ruined me - yes - they made me who I am - and it is their "fault" I am actually happy now!</p><p> </p><p>Well, except for the drama, but that's not <em>their</em> fault.</p><p> </p><p>Anyway. The depression and illness can really get you down. I've had up-and-down depression all my life, but luckily I have been relatively healthy; however I saw my Grandma struggle for years and years with health issues and depression. Her spark was her daughter and her granddaughter.</p><p> </p><p>Heather, whether you know it or not - <em>you are that spark</em>. It's not something external, or even internal as in your mind. You are the spark. So far you've lit more than one fire. I know sometimes it feels as if... "What's the point? Why bother?"</p><p> </p><p>Because of love. No matter how awful it gets, you will always have that. If you ever lose your ability to love, then you can give up. But unless that happens, you have the most powerful feeling in the world. You wouldn't be a Warrior Mom if you hadn't done everything you can - and then some.</p><p> </p><p>More hugs. And thanks for being here for me, too!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="AnnieO, post: 297260, member: 6705"] Heather... First of all before anything else - [[[[[[[[[[HUGS]]]]]]]]]] I'm glad you have your online friend. Sure, now you know what is missing. But something maybe you didn't know - and that is, regardless of anything else, you have made a difference. In my life. In others' lives. Some of the things you have been through with difficult child make a big impact on the way I think about the things Onyxx does. And says. When I was 14 - My parents had ruined my life. I hated them. They had made me the way I was and it was their fault I had so many issues. I'm now 36 and - guess what...? My parents helped to make me the way I am. They are some of my best friends. They "ruined" my life so that I didn't put up with my ex in a loveless marriage and found husband instead. They ruined my ability to settle for less than the best. Yes, the perception sticks. But it slowly changes as the child grows. My parents ruined me - yes - they made me who I am - and it is their "fault" I am actually happy now! Well, except for the drama, but that's not [I]their[/I] fault. Anyway. The depression and illness can really get you down. I've had up-and-down depression all my life, but luckily I have been relatively healthy; however I saw my Grandma struggle for years and years with health issues and depression. Her spark was her daughter and her granddaughter. Heather, whether you know it or not - [I]you are that spark[/I]. It's not something external, or even internal as in your mind. You are the spark. So far you've lit more than one fire. I know sometimes it feels as if... "What's the point? Why bother?" Because of love. No matter how awful it gets, you will always have that. If you ever lose your ability to love, then you can give up. But unless that happens, you have the most powerful feeling in the world. You wouldn't be a Warrior Mom if you hadn't done everything you can - and then some. More hugs. And thanks for being here for me, too! [/QUOTE]
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