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<blockquote data-quote="DammitJanet" data-source="post: 297290" data-attributes="member: 1514"><p>Ahhhh Heather. Hugs for a starter. I understand your post completely. No, I was never the person who always put on makeup...lol but I did live for my kids. I didnt know who I was if I wasnt "mommy". I still have a hard time defining who I am if I'm not someone's mom, someone's partner, someone's grandma. I used to say I could end it all when the kids got grown but then Cory went and screwed up that plan by having Keyana! Now I have to live for the grandkids...lol. Dangitall. How dare they mess it up my plans! Just watch, I bet the grands will have kids and make me stick around too! Bratty kids.</p><p></p><p>Bet the same thing happens to you. Just watch. Grands will come along and heck..then you will be needed again!</p><p></p><p>Wynter is going to think what she wants with the borderline diagnosis. You know what is true. It really doesnt matter in the long run. If she gets help at some point and is happy in her later life but blames you, who cares? As long as she is happy and self sufficient that is the goal. I think eventually she will come to realize she doesnt have anything to blame you for. I have specific examples of things and episodes I can point to and relate in my past that lead to the borderline diagnosis. With her it isnt that clear cut. She cant say...oh my mom did this and that to me. </p><p></p><p>I do think you need to try and get out some. I know its hard. It is hard for me but I try and force myself to do something every week. Go out to lunch with a book, pick up Mcdonalds and sit in the park, do something. I just found out our local rec center is offering craft classes...I think I may go. I will probably be the only 47 year old there with a bunch of elderly ladies but who cares! If I can swing the cost I might go take a cake decorating class.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DammitJanet, post: 297290, member: 1514"] Ahhhh Heather. Hugs for a starter. I understand your post completely. No, I was never the person who always put on makeup...lol but I did live for my kids. I didnt know who I was if I wasnt "mommy". I still have a hard time defining who I am if I'm not someone's mom, someone's partner, someone's grandma. I used to say I could end it all when the kids got grown but then Cory went and screwed up that plan by having Keyana! Now I have to live for the grandkids...lol. Dangitall. How dare they mess it up my plans! Just watch, I bet the grands will have kids and make me stick around too! Bratty kids. Bet the same thing happens to you. Just watch. Grands will come along and heck..then you will be needed again! Wynter is going to think what she wants with the borderline diagnosis. You know what is true. It really doesnt matter in the long run. If she gets help at some point and is happy in her later life but blames you, who cares? As long as she is happy and self sufficient that is the goal. I think eventually she will come to realize she doesnt have anything to blame you for. I have specific examples of things and episodes I can point to and relate in my past that lead to the borderline diagnosis. With her it isnt that clear cut. She cant say...oh my mom did this and that to me. I do think you need to try and get out some. I know its hard. It is hard for me but I try and force myself to do something every week. Go out to lunch with a book, pick up Mcdonalds and sit in the park, do something. I just found out our local rec center is offering craft classes...I think I may go. I will probably be the only 47 year old there with a bunch of elderly ladies but who cares! If I can swing the cost I might go take a cake decorating class. [/QUOTE]
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