Must vent

Discussion in 'The Watercooler' started by mrscatinthehat, Mar 26, 2008.

  1. mrscatinthehat

    mrscatinthehat Seussical

    easy child is in track. She isn't the best but she is pretty good. She also puts in tons of effort (as she does with most activities). Somehow I managed over the years to convince her that if you are going to do something do it whole hearted. Well this has paid off in the past.

    In middle school she loved track in 7th grade. Did well etc. Then 8th grade came along. With a different coach. He had never coached girls or track. He had coached football. She came home every day and vented. But she hung tough. If he needed someone extra to do something she did it. If someone didn't show up at a meet she filled in. In the end it paid off with her receiving MVP for her team. He recognized all she did. Of course I took that opportunity to express pride and a life lesson.

    So we move to last year her freshman year. She normally does hurdles and 200 or 400 dashes. Those are her events she does best. She did ok in the ones she did last year. The only glitch was that on one of the hurdle events someone had clicked the hurdle up a notch and she caught her foot. She didnt' stop running but she hurt after that and she didn't run with the same enthusiasm.

    Now flash forward to this year. In the first couple of weeks of practice she hurt her hip. To the point that she dropped. We took her to the doctor and had it checked out. He had her off track practice for about a week. So then she starts to ease back into practice. The coach tells her no more hurdles. easy child was very disappointed but excepted that it was so she didnt' hurt herself again as the doctor had said if she did he would say no more track ever. And she loves track. So just regular races is what she is to do. No problem.

    Big problem. When we got the email Monday night for Tuesdays meet I about fell off my chair. Then of course I called easy child out of her room to review it with her. She was actually talking of when she died to please do this or that for her. I know that sounds dramatic however the races she was to run seemed a bit much to me. She was scheduled four events. That is not the part that bothered me. It was the choice of events. Her first was the last leg of the distance Medley (200, 200, 400, 800). Ok not what she would normally do but ok. Then her next event was the 400 dash. Which was the next race. As in finish the Medley and immediately get on the blocks for the next race. This bothered me a bit. Then her next race was another 800. The 800 dash (not my idea of a dash but that is what THEY call it). And drum roll please her last race was the 1500 (yes the girls version of the mile).

    When she ran that last race (I always video tape them). I am watching her on lap 4 (the final lap) kick in this speed to pass the person in front of her so tha tshe didnt' come in last. I couldn't believe I saw her just boost it up. The problem came as she finished the race. She fainted. I wasn't sure what had happened when I saw her go down. So I watched carefully and they got her up and walking off the track. Now keep in mind at that point I don't know it is a faint. I just know my baby dropped. But since no one seems to feel they need to get the mom I restrain myself (not an easy task). At that point I went and got the car to the pick up spot and waited as the last race was run.

    When easy child gets in the car she asks if I saw her faint. Oh so that is what happened. As I try to remain calm no that it wasn't her fault. I start muttering about talking to the coach as this was unexceptable and she asks me to leave it alone. She doesn't want to be a complainer. Besides if I say something and she doesn't the coach won't change anything anyway.

    Now I think she is really overextending my easy child. And when I looked at the list to see if she had been doing it to anyone else the answer is not so much. In fact her daughter is on the team and she does four events. Want to go through those with me. Ok. She does a field event. The shuttle hurdles (that is 100), The 100 hurdles, and the 4x 100. So in all her daughter is running 300 meters and doing the high jump. My easy child ran 3500 meters and is not a distance runner. Hmmmmm can anyone else do the math. I don't have a problem with her working easy child hard but I do have a problem when she abuses her. And when I say abuse I mean her good natured spirit.

    So now I am in a conundrum. easy child wants it left alone. She is ok and was after the meet. But how long do I let this go on. I know easy child is 16 and can make up her own mind. She generally has good common sense. So how do I convince myself that I need to leave it alone. She is still a kid and isn't going to get that she is going to burn herself out.

    For the moment I am abiding by her wishes. But that could change at any time. I did notice a few other parents commenting on how strange it was she had so much and especially the back to back race. So who knows maybe I won't have to say anything.

    Thanks for listening.

  2. meowbunny

    meowbunny New Member

    I was on track. I was not a sprinter. I didn't even get a decent kick going until about 400 meters. My coach woud do things like put me on the relays, short sprints, etc. Why? Because I let him. My mother could have spoken up. I didn't want her to. I could have spoken up. I didn't for about 4 events. I finally said I'd had enough, this was stupid to him, I liked winning and there was no on this earth I was going to win a sprint. He smiled and let me run MY events after that (1500 was the shortest I would run and I wasn't even happy running it). I don't know whether he was trying to see if I would stand up for myself or what, but I do know I would have been furious had my mother opened her mouth for me. At 16, she's old enough to say something if and when she's ready to do so. As you said, others may do it for her, but I wouldn't step in unless you truly feel it is physically harming her. (I'd frequently pass out and/or throw up at the end of a race. It wasn't harming me, just my body having a hissy fit cause I wasn't hydrating myself enough.)
  3. daralex

    daralex Clinging onto my sanity

    Very sticky situation! I would say as a mom it's our jobs to protect and teach. I understand easy child is all into this and wants to participate, but I would be nervous about overextending her. Is there any way to speak to the coach without her knowledge? It just seems she is pushing herslef because the coach is pushing her. I would want my child to excell at what they love to do - but not at the xpense of their health. Very sticky indeed. Wish I had better advice, but am sending wishes for a smooth reat of the track season! Hopefully someone will come along that can help you better. Thinking of you!!!
  4. Star*

    Star* call 911

    Beth -

    I also ran track. My Junior year I came within 1 10th of a second of getting the state record for 100 m. hurdles. It's not much now - but it was a BIG deal then. For once, I found a place I could do well. I had a couple faints along the way too. And bad ankles (lax ankles) had to run sometimes with my ankles taped up. And our coach was a former Asst. Coach to the Cincinnati Bengals. Talk about intense work outs.

    Track - kept me out of trouble, gave me a goal and gave me something to talk about with you - (Schmrsirhaskllgka;) years later.

    Maybe it's time for a physical to check iron levels and stuff like that? Kind of more of an unassuming approach.