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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 548460" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I think there is more going on than just age. This may not be a popular opinion, but I feel there is a lot of truth to it.</p><p></p><p>My husband was the stepparent and my kids refusesd to respect his authority because to them he wasn't their parent and they just were going to let him know, over and over, that they were still hurting that Mom and Dad weren't together. I talked to my husband and we decided that he'd step back and that me and my ex would do the parenting. It worked like magic. </p><p></p><p>Kids of all ages are traumatized by divorce and many do not accept stepparents either right away or until they are grown up. They may be perfectly nice people with good intentions, but many kids still are angry at them for daring to try to replace the parent. Face it, the k ids didn't pick the step...WE did. </p><p></p><p>Now that the kids are grown up they like my husband, but even though I didn't introduce them to my husband for three years after the divorce, my kids were still not ready to accept a "new" parent at the time. Now they often say, "T. is nicer than Dad!" But it took us many years. Many people (not pointing fingers) think our kids will or MUST accept the stepparent just because we bring them home and tell them to. It's not that simple. Also, maybe your wife is not handling your son in the best way. Family counseling would probably really help.</p><p></p><p>Good luck <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 548460, member: 1550"] I think there is more going on than just age. This may not be a popular opinion, but I feel there is a lot of truth to it. My husband was the stepparent and my kids refusesd to respect his authority because to them he wasn't their parent and they just were going to let him know, over and over, that they were still hurting that Mom and Dad weren't together. I talked to my husband and we decided that he'd step back and that me and my ex would do the parenting. It worked like magic. Kids of all ages are traumatized by divorce and many do not accept stepparents either right away or until they are grown up. They may be perfectly nice people with good intentions, but many kids still are angry at them for daring to try to replace the parent. Face it, the k ids didn't pick the step...WE did. Now that the kids are grown up they like my husband, but even though I didn't introduce them to my husband for three years after the divorce, my kids were still not ready to accept a "new" parent at the time. Now they often say, "T. is nicer than Dad!" But it took us many years. Many people (not pointing fingers) think our kids will or MUST accept the stepparent just because we bring them home and tell them to. It's not that simple. Also, maybe your wife is not handling your son in the best way. Family counseling would probably really help. Good luck :) [/QUOTE]
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