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My 19 y/o is turning into a Pothead
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<blockquote data-quote="Nancy" data-source="post: 600401" data-attributes="member: 59"><p>Welcome missnemo. I think it was about 3 in the morning when I came upon this site many years ago and it has helped e ever since.</p><p></p><p>These are my thoughts and you are free to disregard any that don't fit. It's difficult to determine at this point whether pot will be an issue with your son or it is just experimentation or casual use. Of course the fact that he got arrested is not a good sign. How long has he been using? My daughter began using pot at age 14 and it escalated into alcohol and pills. She went to one of our state universities after high school and was arrested after only 6 weeks there. She never went to one class. She had to take a alcohol/drug class also and do community service. None of it made a difference. She came back home and just escalated her use. We eventuallyhad to kick her out of our home and she ended up in a residential rehab center for 60 days, a six week aftercare program, and lived in two different sober houses. She relapses over and over and never thought she was an alcoholic or drug abuser. She had had many different jobs in the past three years and either quits or gets fired before 3 months are up. One of the low points was when she was arrested for shoplifting.</p><p></p><p>My advice is to let him go to the local college for the time being. He is telling you that he does not want to go to the private college, he knows he is not going to apply himself and will probably get into trouble for his drug use. I know how disappointing it is when we have to sit back and watch them jeopardize their future.</p><p></p><p>You can make a condition of him staying home and going to the local college that he not smoke pot and that if he does you will withdraw support. If his drug use continues or escalates you may have to tell him to find other living arrangements.</p><p></p><p>What are his grades like? Do you suspect he is involved in any other drugs? What about his friends? Are they also using drugs?</p><p></p><p>I hope this arrest makes him realize what he is throwing away, but from my experience their brains do not work so well at this age.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nancy, post: 600401, member: 59"] Welcome missnemo. I think it was about 3 in the morning when I came upon this site many years ago and it has helped e ever since. These are my thoughts and you are free to disregard any that don't fit. It's difficult to determine at this point whether pot will be an issue with your son or it is just experimentation or casual use. Of course the fact that he got arrested is not a good sign. How long has he been using? My daughter began using pot at age 14 and it escalated into alcohol and pills. She went to one of our state universities after high school and was arrested after only 6 weeks there. She never went to one class. She had to take a alcohol/drug class also and do community service. None of it made a difference. She came back home and just escalated her use. We eventuallyhad to kick her out of our home and she ended up in a residential rehab center for 60 days, a six week aftercare program, and lived in two different sober houses. She relapses over and over and never thought she was an alcoholic or drug abuser. She had had many different jobs in the past three years and either quits or gets fired before 3 months are up. One of the low points was when she was arrested for shoplifting. My advice is to let him go to the local college for the time being. He is telling you that he does not want to go to the private college, he knows he is not going to apply himself and will probably get into trouble for his drug use. I know how disappointing it is when we have to sit back and watch them jeopardize their future. You can make a condition of him staying home and going to the local college that he not smoke pot and that if he does you will withdraw support. If his drug use continues or escalates you may have to tell him to find other living arrangements. What are his grades like? Do you suspect he is involved in any other drugs? What about his friends? Are they also using drugs? I hope this arrest makes him realize what he is throwing away, but from my experience their brains do not work so well at this age. [/QUOTE]
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